I want to start trying for another baby but

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Dh wants to wait a year. He sees it as we've only just got "sorted" with ds. I only want 2 dc (i think) and i want them quite close together. Ds is 10mo. How can i convince dh? I've tried telling him that it could take a while to get pregnant but he thinks it won't as it only took a month of trying with ds. Or should we wait a year? Is having a newborn and a 2yo much different to having a newborn and a 3yo? Any advice and experience appreciated.

I would think pushing a reluctant partner on to have another child before they are ready would be a mistake, personally

There are benefits to having two children close together, but even if you do wait a year, your babies will still be close together.

I have 18 months between my two, and I found I didn't enjoy dd1 so much because I was so exhausted dealing with dd2.

Maybe give it a few months and then discuss again?

agree with f&z - your partner may resent it, and a year really isn't that long to wait.

thank you for your replies, i know you're right really. it's just since i have been feeling broody again it's really hard to get out of my head iykwim! i should just enjoy my ds for a year really.

Speaking as someone who had her dcs 22 months apart, I would wait a bit longer if you can bear to. I have found it really hard having them so close, although it is getting easier now that dd is 15 months - but the early days were HARD!

There is also some research that says waiting a year is more benificial to the next baby as it takes about that long for your body to recover from pregnancy, birth, bf etc - your bones, mineral levels, calcium etc all get very depleted and so giving yourself a full year to replenish gives your new baby great start - Unconfirmed research suggests that babies born within a year of a sibling generally tend to be a lower birth weight, premature etc - so it might be worthwhile waiting for a year.