Shitshow day

[Fizby]

Anyone else had a bit of a shitshow day and want to commiserate together?!

Thought the 6 week holidays were going ok and I was feeling a bit smug but I’ve been humbled this week by my 1.5 yr old and 4 yr old.

Today’s highlights included my 1 year old hitting an older kid at softplay and the kids mum being furious. It was my fault, I got distracted and took my eyes off him for a moment and the little opportunist took this moment to launch his attack when I thought he was just playing nicely with his sister. The other kids mum was scowling at mine she was so angry. Not helped by the fact mine was pointing at laughing at her kid. Ideal.

After I needed to get a birthday present - went to the toy shop. Epic mistake. My 4 year old lost her mind when i stood my ground that we were not there to buy a toy for her today (as she had in fact just had something bought for her). It turned into a game of cat and mouse as she legged it from me screaming I’m the worstest mum ever x 13 (to be precise). When I finally caught up with her there was no reasoning. When I pointed out people were looking (I know I know fuel to the fire) she stomped her feet and growled at them. Amazing. So I had to pick her up and physically carry her out of the shop screaming because she’d got so dysregulated and overwhelmed whilst everybody stared. I know, it was almost self inflicted by taking her in there and I know why she lost her mind and I know I didn’t handle it in the best way either but jeez she doesn’t normally throw a performance like that.

im back at work tomorrow for the first time
in 2 weeks and can’t wait for a days break.

Please tell me I’m not that only one who feels like this week has not been their finest moment?!

Oh I feel you! I had a chuckle and a happy "oh thank god it's not just me" moment.

Overall though, I actually don't think it went that badly. Not ideal to not be watching the baby at soft play, but he is a baby - how much damage can he do?! And you did well to stand your ground and remove your 4yo when she stopped being able to cope.

Haha thank you for some perspective I am trying to hold onto the fact that on the whole the rest of the day has been pretty good but it’s hard not to let the hard (embarrassing) moments overshadow all of that 😂

I know the softplay situation I do feel guilty about as I know I should have been watching him more closely. I did apologise to the mum and said I’d keep a closer eye on him. And by that I meant basically pinning him
to my lap for the rest of the session as I felt our cards were marked 😅. But I could tell she was fuming. Which to be fair wasn’t helped by my 1 yr old laughing at her upset kid. But like you say he’s only 1 and he doesn’t really understand yet (something we’re working on 🫠)

Just massive solidarity.
I'm super frazzled. DS is 4 and v high energy. DD is 4 months and getting to that fussy stage where you can't put her down anywhere. We are renovating our bathroom and DH is full on at work! It's a lot. I have made sure we have done something everyday but I feel guilty it's been quite a low key summer and some days I've been in survival mode and not loving it.

I feel like my survival mode is also running out of steam this week 😅. We’ve also had quite a low key summer. Some days I’ve just not had the energy to take them both out and they’ve been happy enough playing outside in the garden together. My 4 year old can be super defiant and everything can be a battle with her if the winds not blowing in the right direction so some days I’ve just picked my battles and they’ve actually turned out to be quite nice chilled days where the kids relationship has started to really blossom. So I’m holding onto that positive at least. But I’ve found the days so boring and tedious sometimes. So props to you with a 4 month old as at least my 2 have started to entertain each other a bit which can (sometimes) lighten the load.

Every day I feel so guilty if I’ve not enjoyed the day because I feel like I ‘should be enjoying it’ as they grow so quick and I’ll want this time back.

But I can categorically confirm I do not want this day back ever again.

My husbands also just messaged to see how we are as he’s working until 11 tonight. His reply to me ‘I’m having a really steady day so far’. Love that for him!

I think the other mum at soft play needs to get over herself. Her kid was older and your child is 1?? Scowling at your child? Honestly I wouldn’t give a hoot what she thinks.

thanks @puddlegooseI did think the scowling was a bit ott too to be honest but I get her kid was upset that they’d just been hit and mine was stood pointing and laughing. But when I’ve seen similar situations before at soft play most parents normally just shrug it off and say it’s ok they don't understand and it happens at this age (which is how I would respond) or just kind of say to the other kid ‘oh that wasn’t very kind we don’t hit’ but she just looked at me and said ‘I know he’s only little but…’ and kind of tutted at me/him so her reaction made me feel 100x worse. So im not sure what she wanted from me in that situation to be honest. He’s 1 and I should have been watching him more closely so that’s on me, not him 🤷🏼‍♀️

Her time will come. She's judgemental now, but she won't be on her high horse when it's her kid snatching or leaving another child out and not letting them play.

@Springadorableim sure it will 😅 and maybe she’ll remember this situation and look back and have some empathy. I’ve definitely had my fair share of humble pie over the last 4 years 😂