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Nohelpnohope · 17/08/2025 13:14

Name changed incase it is outing. I am struggling at the moment. I have 1 DC. Ex left when DC was 3. Ex did next to nothing for years and left everything to me. Ex has been in DC life but on his terms, he has always been involved but never consistent changing what days he sees DC from one week to the next. DC is now 6 and for the past year has been getting more upset wanting to see dad more. I don't stop ex from seeing DC. It is so frustrating I do everything for DC and feel he doesn't have a close bond with me but DC worships ex. I am struggling and getting myself upset because ex does nothing and is worshipped by DC. Do I help DC understand what his dad is like or do I ride it out in the hope DC learns for himself. I always thought me and DC would have the closest relationship and it is hurtful that ex is preferred and now I doubt DC will ever see me in the way DC sees ex. I honestly feel like doing nothing with DC now as that seems to work for ex! I feel stupid having wrote this but I don't know how to stop doubting rgev bond!?

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Moneyworries890 · 17/08/2025 18:52

I think there is a middle ground between dumping the whole truth of what a bastard he is and covering up. You do need to be truthful, to an extent. Don't totally lie for your ex. You won't be doing DS any favours if you build a heroic imagine in his mind. But equally it sounds pretty standard for a 6 year old to be worshipping his dad, especially a slightly absent one.

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