Demanding more time from DH

[TheMaryClaire]

Hi mums! Would like to get your suggestions, please. I'm a mother of 2, and my DH is usually busy to arrange anything related to the kids. I would like to have him spend more time with his kids, but he is always busy with work or doing overtime and is usually too tired to interact with them when he arrives in the evening. While our household income is decent, we are not a well-off family.

Am I unreasonable to ask him to spend more time with his kids? I understand that he might be worried about his financial obligations to us but I think it is also very important for parents to have a close bond with their children. I tried talking to him before but no apparent results.

Any suggestions on how I could talk to my DH about this?

It really depends to be honest on whether you need the money. Does he need to be working that overtime, would you manage without that money? If so, he can stop doing it and that will free up time. If the money is needed then could you do some overtime instead to balance it out, or are there changes you can make to remove the financial strain so that nobody has to do overtime?

You say he gets home late and is too tired to interact with the kids in the evenings - what about weekends?

Can you take on more work so that he is less tired and able to have the energy to spend time with to the kids ?

Sorry but if he wanted to he would. A decent dad doesn't need to be ASKED to interact with his own children.

Organize some things for yourself to do on the weekend and tell him he's in charge of the kids while you're gone.