Mum friends who are competitive parents/individuals - how do you manage your relationships with them?

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Hey everyone, just would like hear some of your experiences and thoughts on the above. Also, if this is not quite the right place to discuss this, please nudge me the right way.

For some more elaboration... i can appreciate the competitive nature can stem from all sorts of places. But im finding it realy hard to be kind and understanding to those mums, who keep humblebragging about their children, and also keep comparing their children's developmental progress to others. I honestly find them really annoying and frustrating. On a bad day, I'm always on the verge of losing it.
I think part of the frustration is they act as such hypocrites - they understand the nature of developmental milestones and how all children are individuals, but shows so much pride when their child reaches some earlier in comparison.

Anyway, please share your thoughts and maybe how youve managed friendships with them.

I’m secure in my own children’s abilities so I just do an inner eye roll and, most probably, don’t try and build a friendship with them, as it’s pretty unbearable. That said, my eldest had a mum like this in her class (they’re all 12 and in secondary now so we’ve known her ages and have all had more kids over the years) and we’ve all largely regarded it with affection and the odd moan and can gently tease her about what a miracle it is that all her children are geniuses. But she’s never changed!

You don't have to be friends with women just because they have babies the same age as yourself. Just walk away.

It's hard to know from your post if these people are doing anything wrong. Them being proud of their little one is not a slight on yours.

For example, me being happy that my son took his first steps at 10 months is not me looking down on anyone else, I'm just happy about it. Do I announce it? No. Do I talk about it if someone asks me how my baby is doing? Yes. If that makes you feel bad because your baby isn't walking yet, that's not really my fault, is it?

I've never actively compared my son to anyone else and I am sensitive when I know there is a baby/mum in the room with certain issues (I.e. I never talked much about breastfeeding to my best friend because I knew she struggled a lot when she had to move to formula so I don't want to add to the guilt) but equally there is an element of you just getting on with it.

If they are annoying, just do an eye roll and move on. Women don't become nicer people when they become mothers. So if they were self centered competitive mean girl type before having a baby, they'll still be that way afterwards.

Generally, I wouldn’t be friends with them, but in the circle of baby group mums (and dads) I knew when mine were little, the ones who tended to shout the loudest about their babies walking or talking or whatever early were always the ones who were the most insecure and struggling. I’m also not convinced their babies were actually doing those things they said. I think sometimes they were just so stressed about reaching certain milestones that they just sort of said they were to everyone because it made them feel better.