Document for grandparents

[ThisDreamyExpert]

Hi! I have had couple of issues with my children’s grandparents, my in laws- in sticking to our house rules and following our rules regarding to sweets and screentime. Is it totally unreasonable to draw a ‘contract’ to say how we are raising our kids and what rules to follow? MIL looks after the kids on regular basis and I want to avoid future conflict to arise and state my expectations.

Maybe you need to find different childcare

Yes, it's totally unreasonable.

If you want that kind of thing you need to pay for childcare.

You can't draw up contract for a grandparent providing free childcare.

She is a grandparent not an employee

sounds like you should look for a childminder/nursery/holiday club depending on age of child and your requirements
if it’s just for childcare while you go out then I would let it go - it doesn’t hurt once in a while

A contract is a ridiculous idea. You need to find alternative childcare. How often are they having the DC and how many sweets/ much screen time are they getting?

No sorry you can’t do that. Don’t use them for childcare if you don’t want to though.

Pmsl.

A contract ? Give your head a wobble .

Yes, great idea. Will there be regular performance reviews against said objectives expectations? What will the probation period be? Is there a bonus or just monthly salary?

Oh, sorry, I thought I was on the Work board for a minute.

Utterly ridiculous. I can’t even imagine the conversation where you sit down and present this document for signing.

Does your wife agree with this?

Don’t be ridiculous. What will you do if they ‘break’ your ‘contract’?
Have a conversation like adults! FML use chat gpt if you have to. Here I’ll start: “hi X, thanks so much for having the kids today. Please could I ask that you don’t give the kids sweets as it makes them poorly/ hyper/ refuse their dinner. Also we’ve packed little Brian’s jigsaw puzzle/ wooden top/ marbles as he gets nightmares when he watches the horrors of the television for more than 30 seconds. Thanks again!”

What's made you think of a contract ?rather than oh I don't know having a adult conversation......

This can’t be real?

I think this is a wind up.

Actually just searched OPs other threads and there is another one about the grandparents!

YABVVU

Do you know how lucky you are to get free childcare? I am assuming it's free so in what way is a contract enforceable?

How many sweets and how much screentime?

Ah yes @Allswellthatendswelll - and OP never came back and replied to that thread, either 🤔

With any contract for it to be valid there must be a benefit for each party eg one party receives a service and the other Party receives a monetary payment. In this case your benefit is the receipt of childcare with precise details of how that must be delivered, what benefit will your in-laws receive? If the answer is nothing then your contract is invalid.