Will try and keep this short, but would so appreciate anyone telling me if they've been through similar or know someone who has....and also if I'm being over dramatic.
My son is 14, he will be 15 in 3 weeks. He is going into S4 this week (Scotland).
My son, his brother and i are a close family, we do a lot together and they are the best! The past few years have been turbulent. We had lived in the same house for nearly 9 years in a village, we left because the LL told me she was selling (she didn't, she increased the rent over 100%). We moved and did a long commute to school, then that place was sold, we were homeless, three of us living in one room at my mums. I then bought a house, closer to school but still a commute and has had a lot of problems. I really dislike living here and want to move. My son had 2 best friends all through primary and into secondary, then around a year ago, they just isolated him, just started to ignore him and talk about him to other people. My son was in the same football team for 7 years, and he left this year because of them (they are too), he felt he had no real friends anymore. He has tried to move on, hes gotten a new friend, joined the school football team and im proud he has joined this other team. But he is uncomfortable i think, he hasn't met a single friend all summer. Of course I am biased, but hes a great boy, he does well at school, excels in maths and science, hes never been in trouble ever. He is tall and handsome! He's just a 'young' 14 year old. He has always been a good sleeper and never stays up late.
And now this issue....he is having real trouble sleeping. It has been rumbling on for maybe 6 months or so, in peaks and troughs. And the last few nights he has come into my room crying. He is not one to cry. He'll talk about his old best friends, last night he spoke about feeling anxious because his Dad (who is remarried and is an EOW) kept telling him how important sleep is, and scolded him if he couldn't sleep. We sat in my bed until after midnight last night, we did some deep breaths, and I made him laugh and tried to comfort him. He then said he'd try to go to sleep again...but I left him crying in his room, he started to cry again.
I'm conscious that hes a 14 year old boy and won't love the idea of the doctors, I don't even know if they can do anything ? I could maybe pay for therapy, but unsure how open He'll be to that.
I am exhausted, and obviously I have to work too. I don't want to make a wrong move here.