Please help, my 3 year old is alway hitting, biting and kicking my 6 year old

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I dont know how to discipline him. I have told him off, taken him off the scene, said he will get no pudding. I just dont know what to do with this behaviour. My six year old is very kind and generous, and would never dream of hitting his brother. Sometimes I wish he would give him a good right smack in return to show his brother this is not on. But I have always been telling my kids that hitting is not ON.

Any suggestions?

When I worked in a nursery school and we had a 'biter' we worked with the other children as much as we did the biter to try and stop the beahviour.

We taught them to be assertive, to say: 'Don't bite me! I don't like it' and other such phrases and not passively stand there and let themselves be bitten.

Often a biter gets a thrill out of the reaction of the other children. If your ds stops getting the reaction he likes, he'll stop the behaviour.

Oh, and I'd keep up with the sanctions you're using on the 3 year old. Good luck!