I am about to pick my daughter up early from a sleepover and I am doubting myself now. I try to be firm with my children but I feel so guilty when I upset them and soften so wondering now if I am making the correct decision. At 11pm last night my sister screen shot my 13 year old on Tik Tok mocking her son (her cousin) for liking Roblox and Anime. I looked into it and could see it was in response to an absolutely awful post he had put up about a seven year old deserving to die. She isn’t wrong to challenge him for this but it’s not the way. I absolutely hate these phones and my daughter only has Tik Tok under the understanding she scrolls and doesn’t comment. It’s clear that she not only doesn’t follow these rules but gets into comment debates and I am not happy. Especially not happy with her teasing her cousin on a public forum-in humour or in retaliation or anything. Picking her up early as a consequence to take her phone from her for rest of week also but feeling guilty already 🤦♀️ She will go to her dads tonight too who I know will make me the devil. Kids are hard 😭