Guilty about going out

[Carol52]

Need some advice. My daughter has been on a sailing camp all week. She is due home tomorrow. My son’s friend mum had bought me a ticket to a tribute act. She mentioned it months ago I said in passing i bet it would be fun.
i have a problem she texted this week to say she had bought a ticket and see me there . The sane night my 14 year old comes home.
I text to say it depends what time she arrives home because I would like to see her before I go out. I would try and come even if it was a bit later but I would let her know.
she has not replied. My son said J am being rude but I feel awful not being her when she returns.
Your thoughtd

She’s 14, OP. My 13 year old has also been at a camp all week, and is home this evening. I am out for dinner with a friend. He will be reconnecting with his friends and his gaming PC and won’t notice if I’m here or not.

Fault on both sides. You weren't clear whether you were committing to it or not which was vague and unhelpful. But she shouldn't have bought you a ticket without checking you definitely wanted to go.

Your daughter will still be there when you get home and I would go. It's not particularly clear cut whether you would be letting the friend down or not as you hadn't properly committed to it but your vagueness hasn't helped so I wouldn't compound it but not turning up

She mentioned it uk my son about feting tickets but never confirmed with me. I never go out and feel guilty about leaving my daughter .my son said you have to go because he doesn’t want to feel awkward going around to the house if I don’t go

You are being rude, go and see your daughter the following morning