Hi so I have a 15 and 14 year old daughter they have both been naughty for the past couple of months my 14 year old more so she is completely out of control doesnt listen does what she wants doesn't listen to rules goes and has fights with people and arguing daily with people she doesnt return home to the point where I have to ring the police and things are that bad I've rang social services for help with them both but my 14 year old more so as the 15 year old will conform and listen to rules but has her blips mainly when she goes out with the 14 year old, so we have a family holiday booked to salou the end of August for 10 days and have warned them if you dont behave your not going (I've already sold their motorcross bikes so they cant do motorcrossing anymore to prove a point im not playing games anymore as I literally do not know what else to do) so my 14 year old has been told she is definitely not coming on the holiday as she is still not behaving and doing what she wants and so many friends amd family members have said she doesnt deserve to go blah blah but my mum guilt keeps getting the better of me and I keep hoping she will change in time to com but I think its gone to far now where there is no redeeming herself to come on the holiday with us as she will definitely miss behave when we are there and ruin it and I'll be on edge the whole 10 days wondering what shes going to do but like I said my mum guilt is eating away at me for having to leave her behind and go without her. Does it make me a bad parent to take our other 4 children and not her? We cancelled the whole holiday last year because none of them was behaving and im not doing that this year it isn't fair to my 5 and 4 year old to miss out on their holiday because the big 3 who are old enough to know better dont want to behave and I just know my 14 year old is going to resent me for not taking her but taking the other 2 big ones when they have misbehaved but not to the extent she has and they've apologised and are now towing themselves into line but she is still unruley and out of control even when shes been told she won't be coming on the holiday shes said she dont care (even though I know she does) but I just need re assurance and advice from strangers that it doesn't make me a bad parent because im having a really hard time thinking about leaving her behind even though I know deep down she doesnt deserve to go.