My exP moved 130 miles away when we split up and only sees our 3 children for 4 hrs a week. He picks them , drives for an hour to the nearest city, gets them a sandwich and walks round the park/museum with them, then drives an hour to bring them home. He does no actually parenting. He pays the CMA minimum and has untaxed income that isn’t taken into account for CMA that equates to half of his income.
We weren’t married, I don’t know his actual address, neither do the children and when they ask if the can visit/stay overnight he says his flat is too small, although he has his adult daughter to stay.
My lawyer says we can’t serve any court papers as we don’t have an address for him, but I ask myself what the point is anyway? He clearly doesn’t want to pay for his children and he doesn’t want to parent them.
I wonder if I should cut my losses, and forget pursuing him for more cash or his having more custody/getting a parenting plan in order?
my solicitor has emailed him but he doesn’t engage.
I am managing financially and practically (just) on my own. He frequently tells the children that he can’t see them more, or take them to activities as he would “be helping me out”.
The children are beginning to see him for what he is, a vindictive man who weaponises his children. Do I just let accept he isn’t going to parent his children nor provide anything other than the bare minimum financially and try and move on, or do I pursue a legal path as soon as we find out where he lives?