If your DH has a 'job' eg school run, bathtime etc, how often does he wriggle out of it?

[MrsBadger]

If your DH has a (jointly agreed) parenting responsibility like bathtime, making packed lunches, last feed, taking to ballet, whatever, how often does something 'more vital' crop up meaning you do it instead?

How often is it really more vital?

If he shows signs of 'being busy' do you
a) march in on the dot of seven and hand him the baby
b) wait 20min then ostentatiously but passive-aggressively stomp around doing said task
c) just do it yourself without fuss
d) other?

My DH is involved in bathtime/bedtimes and will make packed lunches etc. If can can wriggle out of it he will. However, I have managed, with a few years trying, to change his mind that those "other jobs" can wait. What I do is put HIS tea on hold as I am now too busy with the kids as he cant help. I let all other things round the house go as "I just havent had time" and generally annoy him more! It takes a while but works a treat once you've cracked it. As far as I am concerned there were two of us who agreed to start a family so its the two of us that take care of them. His dad is mortified his son has SOOOOO much to do at home, thank god we have moved with the times.

If dp has agreed to do something he always does it unless there is a very serious reason.

Is Mr Badger not pulling his weight then?

Unless he is physically not here,ie still at work or taking ds's to club etc he never weasles out. He wouldn't dare lol

However if he's been working his days off (worked 18 days in a row when supervisors on hols) i tend to have the dd's bathed and ready for bed so he can spend some time with them and do bedtime story without doing the bath bit.

Oh DH will try to wriggle his way out of anything to do with DS TBH.

I have learned to stand my ground tho. Used to just get huffy, but I don't see why he should get away with it.

It does upset me a bit that he WANTS to wriggle out of things.

And DS is beginning to notice it which really pisses me off .

he is pulling his weight (I think ) - just the perils of working from home

Dh doesn't seem to wriggle much; if anyone wriggles it's me

DP takes the boys to school every morning. He never wriggles out of it because he enjoys this time with his boys. Occasionally he doesn't do it if he's got to go into work early, but that's rare.

DH and I both fight to take on responsibility for anything involving dd; bath times, mealtimes, even tending to her if she wakes at night.
Though I am prone to enjoying the odd lie-in when he gives her breakfast on the weekends.

He doesn't wriggle out of things on the whole. If he's here, he does baths and bed.

He would never wriggle - he wants more time with dd. It's a somewhat tiresome mutual admiration society...