Ex-partner (Dad) not returning Red Book, Birth Certificate or documents from my birth

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Hi all,

Hoping someone may be able to shed a little light here, and has been in a similar situation.

I’m Mum, Daughter is 10 and her father and I have been separated around 3 years now. When we sold her our jointly owned house, he took all the paperwork from the filing cabinet before I could get my things from it, this included my Daughter’s birth certificate, her red book and the documents from when I gave birth to it (the one with all the medical info for both myself and her). He is currently refusing to return any of it to me, saying ‘it’s her documents’, but I currently have absolutely nothing, no history or documents about my birth and her.

Where on earth do I stand with this?

Where does dd live? He is right in that they are her documents.
Do dc still use a red book at 10?

You could order another copy of her birth certificate

You should be able to get a copy of birth certificate copy from register office.
And am assuming when I gave birth to it is a typo and not referring to your 10 yo?

I don't know about the red book but you can easily obtain a copy of birth certificate by filling in a form on your local council website.

You can buy a copy of her birth certificate. Not sure about the red book but don’t worry, your GP will have all details of vaccinations etc on their system.

Actually the medical records relating to your pregnancy and when you gave birth are your medical records and he should return them. Usually from the birth onwards the paperwork is separate so there is a bundle relating to the mother and a bundle relating to the baby. But he should return everything belonging to you. If he doesn't you can contact the hospital to make a subject access request.

And just order another copy of the birth certificate.

Thanks all, anyone got any idea about the documents from the birth?

I was aware that I could get a copy of a birth certificate but I also thought you either needed their original or if you’ve not got access to that, then a passport, which he also has.

He is a spiteful man unfortunately. She lives with us both 50/50, because that’s what worked best for her.

@AnotherEmma Yes, that’s the one! I’ve tried telling him they’re my medical documents but he’s not having it. I will contact the hospital and do that, thank you.

If you're in the UK, you can just contact the registry office and pay for a new copy of the birth certificate.

You'll also be able to get a copy of your medical records from the pregnancy. They're yours, nobody else's, so make a Subject Access Request.

Info on how to access child's GP records

https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/gps/gp-services-for-someone-else-proxy-access/parent-and-guardian-proxy-access-for-children/

Thank you all, I wasn’t even aware you could buy the birth certificate without a passport as I’d been reading and it was stated you’d need a copy of that, but I’ve now requested that on the GRO site.

Medical records are obviously for me, but if he continues to refuse those then I will contact the hospital to provide me with new ones.

The red book, whilst I know she no longer uses this, is still part of her childhood and something I’d like to keep. Looks like that’s a goner! But I understand her GP will have all the medical information.

I appreciate all your quick replies ❤️