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I can’t do this anymore

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willltheybeok · 31/07/2025 22:54

I’m a lone parent to my kids
years in court fighting to save them and keep them safe form their abusive father but I am so tired so damaged and can’t cope with their behaviour. Lots of it is normal growing up primary and secondary school age kids stuff but it’s exacerbated by their experiences and my being worn down and knackered with my trauma, a full time job, money worries and nobody else really to help.
I am at the point of contemplating whether exploring giving them up is the right thing to do. Nobody is happy. They have no respect for me. Nobody listens. Not a day goes by they don’t make me cry. I feel hollowed out and I don’t know what to do. We’ve had support through DA services etc. nothing ever seems happy or right. I don’t know who I am anymore and just feel like where his abuse finished they’ve picked it up and carried on.
I f I call children’s services about this what will happen? Will they support us or will I be judged? I never thought my life would be this way. I love them so much but know that isn’t practically enough

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Honeydewmelon123 · 31/07/2025 23:10

oh dear this makes me so sad to read. you sound worn out and running on empty, and probably worsened with the summer holidays no doubt. When was the last time you had a break from them? Maybe this is what you need if you can arrange it and it will give you some energy to carry on fighting and enjoy them more?

BunnyRuddington · 01/08/2025 08:37

I can’t imagine just how hard it must be. Have you alrwsdy spoken to your GP and have they given you any support?

OhcantthInkofaname · 12/08/2025 22:22

It sounds like you are exhausted.

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/08/2025 22:24

Oh sweetheart, so, so sorry ❤️

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willltheybeok · 14/08/2025 11:46

Thanks for your kind words
i feel in a bit of a better place. Think some of it was the stress of court but we got the right and best outcome so as that sank in and the changes that come with that take effect it is helping.
have had some support from local counselling services and I’ve been sleeping a bit better. I also took some time off work and just did a few nice things with the kids so I’ve had a bit of space to realise whilst things are not perfect I still have so
much to be thankful for.

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SpottedDeer · 12/10/2025 22:22

willltheybeok · 31/07/2025 22:54

I’m a lone parent to my kids
years in court fighting to save them and keep them safe form their abusive father but I am so tired so damaged and can’t cope with their behaviour. Lots of it is normal growing up primary and secondary school age kids stuff but it’s exacerbated by their experiences and my being worn down and knackered with my trauma, a full time job, money worries and nobody else really to help.
I am at the point of contemplating whether exploring giving them up is the right thing to do. Nobody is happy. They have no respect for me. Nobody listens. Not a day goes by they don’t make me cry. I feel hollowed out and I don’t know what to do. We’ve had support through DA services etc. nothing ever seems happy or right. I don’t know who I am anymore and just feel like where his abuse finished they’ve picked it up and carried on.
I f I call children’s services about this what will happen? Will they support us or will I be judged? I never thought my life would be this way. I love them so much but know that isn’t practically enough

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