How do you handle late-night phone use? My daughter never puts it down.

[Annimoore]

My 15-year-old daughter is always on her phone late at night and it's really affecting her sleep. I've tried setting some rules but it always turns into a fight.
I also worry about what she's doing online and just want to make sure she doesn’t end up involved in anything unsafe or inappropriate.
Would love to know how others are dealing with this kind of situation.

I take my DDs phones when I go to bed

A low data bundle, password protected wifi with password gatekept by you and changed regularly, and wifi turned off at a set time each evening

Phones locked at 9pm and all devices out of bedroom.
Pretty simple really

Mine is only 13 which probably makes it easier, but we have a blanket no-devices-in-bedrooms-overnight rule for the whole family. Its benefits me too! We've talked about how it helps with sleep etc. Luckily DS's friendship group all seem to have similar rules in place so he doesn't miss out on anything.

Not sure how but we’ve set our kids phones to not work after 9pm. We also don’t allow them in rooms. Yes, I’m a mean mum/ ruining her life/don’t understand……

We did no phones in the room after 10pm (mon-Fri) until she finished GCSEs.

I was annoyed when I found out I'd lose control of my teens phone via family link. I think I'll do this!

Hello, I was the child with unlimited internet/phone access. My mum neglected my wellbeing as a teenager so I was allowed to do anything. I had a blackberry and iPod touch. I used to send nudes to older men, I would speak to many many creepy men online (Kik, bbm, Instagram etc). Doxxed myself many times getting mens attention.

My mum never went through my phone (I was 8 when I got a flip up phone, then about 13 with a blackberry). I really, really wish she'd have cared enough to safeguard me online. I watched all kinds of awful videos(2 girls 1 cup, 1 man 1 jar etc) when I was far too young. I'm very desensitized because of all the awful stuff I've watched online (shootings, beheadings etc). It affected my mental health massively, even now as an adult I struggle badly to sleep without staring at my screen for ages beforehand. I've managed to improve the situation for myself but I'm now 28. Your daughter likely isn't doing all the things I did online, but you don't know. She may not appreciate you being stricter and it won't be easy to set new rules, it's worth it to protect her.

No tech in rooms esp overnight. Not just for sleep but also to avoid drama and dangerous risky behaviour. Shut down and handed in at a certain time. We do 9pm for that age. More flex at weekend depending on what they’re doing - if home with us then 10/11. If out then later but always handed in when it’s time for bed.

All apps stop working overnight other than podcasts, alarm and texts to family. We use Qustodio but there are others. I don’t think banning phones from the bedroom works well for people who use podcasts to go to sleep.

No social media allowed, app download needs our permission, web browsing is limited to white listed sites. All their friends know there’s no point messaging after 9.00, they won’t see it until 6.30 the next morning.