Do I have the right to be angry?

[Juls888]

My ex and I split during Covid. He moved abroad for work (netherlands)— we were meant to go as a family, but after the split, our daughter (7)and I stayed in the UK. Since then, he’s seen her every few months (used to be monthly) and has never been to any parents evenings, first days off school etc.. I know his lifestyle there is hanging with girls, out and so on. I asked him various times if he can help out more by coming over to help or having her a bit more but it's it doesnt change and he sees her maybe every 3rd month. Recently esp I have been struggling with various things and have asked him for more support.
Now he’s told me he’s moving to the US for a better job. He says it’s for our daughter’s future, which he states I am not thinking about. I am absolutely furious as it leaves me with literally no help at all, and it affects my daughter massively already with the current situation (too long to go into). He will see her maybe once a year. Am I wrong to be mad?

You’re not wrong to be mad but you can’t force him to take more of an interest so it’s wasted energy. Hopefully he’s contributing financially.

To be honest he is, and at least he does as some don't. But I am also unsure on whether he should be contributing more or what he gives me is good. Im not greedy and never ask for more but I am struggling moneywise and I dont know if he should be helping more that way or not.

Have you told him you’re struggling money wise? As he’s abroad I think you will only get what he is willing to give but as he is barely involved he genuinely might not realise he isn’t contributing enough. He should have worked that out for himself but maybe you need to give him the costs on paper. If he balks at coughing up more money then remind him that he said he was moving to US and effectively deciding to never see her, with her financial future in mind. Tell him that that he needs to be paying attention to her current financial needs before worrying about what she might need in the future.

I would rather him be present in her life than anything else and I just cant get my head around someone would actually move so far away from their child. Maybe that's just mr

I would rather him be present in her life than anything else and I just cant get my head around someone would actually move so far away from their child. Maybe that's just mr