Am I doing something wrong?

[SecretSloth99]

I can’t throw the feeling that I am doing something wrong. I have an 8.5 month old baby and I love her to bits but I feel like I’m drowning at the moment.

I am CONSTANTLY doing ‘jobs’.

Whether that is tidying toys, prepping meals for my little one, cleaning the high chair and the floor, putting laundry on / hanging it / putting it away. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

The house is a state 90% of the time. I barely have time for myself. Plus, my little one doesn’t settle for me like she used to and I’m back to contact napping at the moment which compounds the issue. I have a bouncer and a playpen but she doesn’t tolerate either of them for very long.

My husband is great, he does all the food shopping, cooks our meals, but I’m taking all of the mental load on myself (mostly because I’m incapable of not doing that, not because my husband won’t do it)

where am I going wrong? Or is this just life now 🤣

any hacks / tips / tricks / systems / ANYTHING to help me stay sane?

Normal 🤣
Although the contact naps won't be helping. Either get her napping in a cot so you can have a few hours chill time or do some jobs. Or better yet, stick her in the pram and let her nap in there, get out the house, grab yourself a cup of coffee, pop your earphones in and go for a lovely walk.
Also, lower your expectations. Life and your house is never going to be the same! We don't tidy toys away during the day unless we have people coming over or we physically can't walk on the floor 🤣 every night when DC are in bed we "reset" the house for the next day x

Thankyou!!! I think I needed a little reality check and some reassurance that it’s normal 🤣 up until about three days ago, she was putting herself to sleep in her cot for naps and bedtime and now she basically says ‘f**k you mum’ when I attempt it and I’m PRAYING it will go back to how it was. Although even when she was napping independently everything always felt like a race against the clock!

You aren’t doing anything, that’s just life with a little one. I also think contact naps can be great, it was the one time I could sit down in the afternoon so I would start a new series and then watch an episode each day while they napped, that felt like a little me time.

as for the tidying etc it is frustrating, but cut yourself some slack, everything doesn’t have to be pristine all the time.

Oh I remember this phase well! It doesn’t last forever. But yes, get comfy with a messy house for a while! When they’re about 8 you start to catch up with the cleaning 😂