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Utterly fed up of dd (3.9) weeing everywhere.

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2008 22:19

dd was potty trained (with the odd accident of course) but now she isn't. About 3 months ago she started having 6+ accidents a day. I endured it with patience for about a month then took her to GP who said she doesn't have a UTI and to put her back into pull-ups to give me a break then try again in a couple of weeks. We did this and at first kept the pull-ups dry most of the time so we went back to pants but now she's back to accidents and if I now put her in a pull-up she fills in with wee within half an hour.

Today she weed through her pull-up and I decided to try to ignore it so she went bare-bottom for the afternoon - she weed on the lounge floor and then in the sand pit whilst playing in it. Some days she says it 'just comes out' and claims she doesn't know when she needs a wee. Tonight she said she just couldn't be bothered to go to toilet.

What do I do? It's really upsetting me now as she stinks all the time and my washing basket is full of pissy pants and clothes. Reward charts normally work well for her but in this case have made no impact. I feel like punishing her in some way but rationally know it wouldn't be wise. She is starting school full-time in September (she's an august baby) and at the moment I think she'll be starting school in pull-ups.

Any ideas?

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nelliesmum · 27/05/2008 22:36

I honestly think there comes a point where punishment kicks in. She's old enugh to know that she's being naughty. Couldn't you try loss of a treat, not being allowed to watch TV or going to bed without stories is generally enough of a threat for my dd.

PinkTulips · 27/05/2008 22:46

dd was fully potty trained at 2.3 and then we moved house at 2.5... she gradually started wetting herself between 3 and 10 times a day... we had to delay her starting playschool for months as she couldn't go if she was wetting herself.

gradually it occured to me that she was just being lazy (after much panic about uti's etc. so i sent her to playschool. that was 3 months ago and she hasn't had an accident there yet

she still wets herself at home sometimes as she can't be bothered going to the toliet but it's drastically reduced

guess she was just bored and lazy

i did find in the run up to plaschool when i was trying to reduce the wetting that a sticker on a chart for evey half a day dry had surprisingly positive results, 5 stickers emant a treat and she got stickers for other good behaviour too.

ds on the other hand is 22 months and demands to be sat on the toliet a few times a day (doesn't do anything but shout 'poo! poo! poo! wipe bum' but it's a step in the right direction at least )

PinkTulips · 27/05/2008 22:47

sorry about the spelling, should have proof read that

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popmum · 27/05/2008 22:50

what does she drink?
for my dd squash goes straight though - luckily she now knows she needs a wee (she is 5) but when she was younger she didn't.
we also tried just giving milk or water to drink as even fresh juice was having an effect

Please don't be too hard on her

Hangingbellyofbabylon · 27/05/2008 23:34

She drinks milk, water and watered down juice (1/3rd juice, 2/3rd water). She eats loads and loads of fruit, quite acidic stuff like strawberries. I just want there to be a medical reason like an irritable bladder as then I could make it better. She is fed up with it all too and I love her so much, just want this all to end so I can enjoy my lovely girl again.

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PinkTulips · 28/05/2008 11:28

does she have much interaction with other kids her age? for dd seeing the other kids going to the toilet and not wetting themselves made all the differance.

also at playschool they buddied her up with an older girl who loves minding the smallies and she would ask her constantly if she needed to go and go into the bathrooms with her so that she didn't feel like she was missing out on any fun by going in.

popmum · 28/05/2008 13:10

I know it sounds bit mad if you are only giving her some juice which is watered down, but it really helped my dd - by the way she now drinks juice with no accidents - so i think they do grow out of it.
this website has some info and other tips which may help you here

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