So my kids grandparents dont have much of a relationship we only see them maybe twice a year if that, they have asked to have my kids for the weekend now I think it's great for them to try build a relationship with them as I dont have a lot of family members doing that but the kids are uncomfortable and really do not want to stay there without us, my partner said they need to go that his parents are trying but you can't go from no interest for years (my kids are 12 and 9) and then just have them the are pretty much strangers of course they are uncomfortable. I dont think it's OK to leave your kids with people they are uncomfortable even if you know them I have suggested maybe have them the whole day instead build up to a sleepover, but my partner is now upset with me and feel like he will just take them anyway. I really dont want an argument about this but feel like that is what it will come down to because it's his parents. Just some added info he mentioned this last week and said he was gonna say no because it's unfair for kids however when we had a discussion the other day he said I should get my dad to stop giving kids money all the time which is when I said well I will discuss it with him however my dad is very involved in my kids lives he sees them everyday so I did make a point that my dad has a really good relationship with the kids , now my partner said I can't say he is the only one that bothers and deny access from my parents but I am not I am OK for them to see the kids but should be what the kids are OK with.