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Driving myself crazy with anxiety. 4 year old is so clumsy. Please offer some reassurance

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Fightingtobepositive · 23/07/2025 20:51

Im such a worrier and I’ve come to the point that im not sure it’s my anxiety or being responsible. every time my little one is unwell or hurt. I feel so overwhelmed and need reassurance or feel the need to get in front of something. How do you know when the rig hug time to worry is. I’m so confused at this point.
I’m on holiday with my partner and my 4 year old. It’s day two. Already I’ve been on the edge of my nerves because of how many times he’s actually gone under the water for a moment eg going down the slide etc. now tonight he was playing on a rope thing in the park and swung sideways into the metal pole. He bumped his head it’s got a small bump at the back. He was upset for a minute but recovered quickly and was back to playing in minutes. But I’m so worried he’s hurt or I need to seek advice, it’s his head, I can’t see what’s gone on, how do I know if I should be concerned. He’s bumped his back side front etc many times on the past and it’s similar scenario. He only bumped his front about 3 weeks ago. He still has a sharp lump there. I can’t control my anxiety. My little one is so clumsy and I’m feeling completely overwhelmed with trying to keep him safe and well. I could cry.

I don’t know what I’m asking. I guess just that when it’s a bump to the head. You obviously don’t know the damage. He’s got a bit of a lump there, and is happy. But how do I know he’s ok. He took quite a swing and it is the back of his head. He’s eaten ice cream and is now asleep. I don’t know how much more my nerves can take. Or my partner.

please help. Reassure me with you bump stories. Or advise if you can.

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stichguru · 23/07/2025 20:54

Heads are harder than you think. It doesn't sound like he's got any symptoms of concussion.

Fly1ngG1raffe · 23/07/2025 21:05

in the immediate moment There’s some good NHS advice on head injuries with clear advice on when you need to seek urgent help. It’s worth googling and holding on to for future reference.

In the longer term are you able to access some counselling for your anxiety? Kids hurt themselves/get ill so often that it must be exhausting for you to be so worried every time. Hope you can find the longer term help you need xx

Fightingtobepositive · 23/07/2025 21:22

@Fly1ngG1raffe Thank you I did look at the advice. I do speak with someone over my anxiety. It sounds worse than it is. I’m mostly ok but it just seems to take anything to start it off and yes your are right, it’s very exhausting. We’ve had a lovely big hit and now I can only feel sick and panic. I will be worried over the next few days too, we are on holiday so he’s going to be busy on looks etc so he can’t rest after the bump. I’m a bag of nerves. We are only away for a week I’ve spent two days worrying and now probably will continue for the next two days 🙈 I hate being this way but I’m to afraid not to incase I miss something!! X

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