Son going away with dad for 2 weeks

[lovemeeko]

Hi all, my son is 6 years old and his father and I have been separated for 5 years now. I’m a teacher so tend to have him most of the school holidays except for 1 week at Christmas and last summer hols for the first time he had him for 10 days. This year he’s having him for 2 weeks of the summer holidays. I do struggle with anxiety, overthink everything and have massive mum guilt. My son has mentioned this 2 weeks and is worried about missing me, I’m also worried about missing him/ how he’s going to be. I guess I don’t really know what I’m asking for here, advice from maybe someone who’s done similar, how do I prepare my son for the 2 weeks, I’m going to try and make sure we can FaceTime / call but previously haven’t been able to do this when he’s had him, communication isn’t great. His dad has become more involved as he’s got older, so time with his dad has been increasing. He has him 2-3 nights a week.

How do I keep myself busy? I’m hoping to be able to get myself away to keep my mind busy. Just be nice to hear from anyone who’s been through similar. Thank you. (I’m dreading it!) sorry I realise this post is all over the place! A bit like my head 😂

It’s not easy OP. Your DS will most likely be fine, I think they live in the moment at that age. You should just keep positive about the fun he will have, it will go quickly, more fun when he gets back etc. As for you can you see friends? Days out? It will pass fast and I do like the lack of washing or need for meals at certain times. Mine is 16 and still miss him like mad

@BufftailedThank you. I do think you’re right he will be fine. My head likes to tell me otherwise. I will definitely keep being positive with him about him going there and the fun he will have with Dad. Appreciate the reply thank you!

My ds has always had two periods a year with his dad, 26-31 Dec and 10 days in August.

I take advantage of those periods to redecorate ds' room, or shared areas of our home like the sitting room, bathroom, hall and stairs etc.

I plan it, buy the paint, get all the other things in, and then start as soon as he leaves. No need to stop to cook etc. I can get a huge amount done. It gives me something to focus on. I can give my home the attention it seldom gets. And it's a creative project that I can enjoy.

And DS loves it when he comes back. 😊

@Meadowfinch This is a really good idea and good to have a focus. Thank you so much.