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Help - 1YO scared of his room...

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NewbieMama2024 · 21/07/2025 21:00

Up until a couple of nights ago, my son would happily get ready for bed, read a couple of books then go into his crib to self-settle himself to sleep.

Now, he seems scared to even go in his room / go on his changing mat for a nappy change etc. He is needing to be contact napped to get to sleep, then transfer into his crib.

The only thing we can think of is that we looked after my sister's dog for a couple of days and he wasn't 100% sure of her, so whether he's scared she's going to come into his room, I have no idea. We tried to make a big deal about showing him she'd gone home but perhaps it hasn't registered. (For info, she is a small cavapoo).

If we let him sit on the floor and play / flick through books, he seems content - but it's when we put him in his crib, he no longer can self-settle & is crying his eyes out.

Is this just a form of sleep regression? Is it something more serious? Really don't know what to do to help him (other than lots of cuddles).

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parietal · 22/07/2025 05:12

Is he just 1 or nearly 2? If just 1, it is probably a sleep regression. Just do fun and ordinary things in the bedroom and he will get over it.

BCBird · 22/07/2025 05:16

Or another way of thinking, could he be jealous of dog or missing the dog? How about trying him.with a canine cuddly toy?

Groundhogday2025 · 22/07/2025 05:30

Perfectly normal stage of development. You officially have a toddler, complete with developing fears/phobias and nightmares soon too. This is due to developing an imagination so suddenly scary things in the dark can exist, being alone might mean they’ve been abandoned, random ornaments can suddenly appear scary. Becoming more mobile means an innate need to explore, but then exploration means separation from you, which is also very scary (hello separation anxiety!) so it’s a very scary and confusing time all round for him.
Maybe try a night light but don’t dismiss his fears. Your comfort is exactly what he needs so don’t feel guilt or shame for having to give more support. “Self-settling” is a bit of a myth for very young children. The speed at which they develop means a lot of time being unsettled. Even the really good sleepers/self settlers will have times they need more support to get to sleep. Do what works for you and your son, even if it’s not always easy.

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NewbieMama2024 · 22/07/2025 19:24

parietal · 22/07/2025 05:12

Is he just 1 or nearly 2? If just 1, it is probably a sleep regression. Just do fun and ordinary things in the bedroom and he will get over it.

He’s just turned 1, just under two weeks ago. He loves books so we go through about six before bed but doesn’t seem to do anything right now!

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