My DS is 4 in a few weeks and his behaviour has completely blown up, I no longer feel I can cope and am at absolute breaking point.
He's summer born so will be starting school this September, thankfully he has got into a lovely primary, where he currently attends the pre school. He's been going there with a friend since Feb and seems to enjoy it. The reason he started mid term was due to his private nursery going bust with the new government funding. (I'm adding the back ground as it's very likely linked). He normally really struggles with change but all in all has coped really well.
This last month has been awful, he's had some sensory issues with clothing since he was around 1.5. Things like he won't wear buttons, zip, elasticated waists etc. Everything must be flat, seamless and with a tighter fit. Whilst frustrating I've tried to help him, hoping he will grow out of it eventually. We're now at a point where getting him in more than underwear is impossible. Things I tried are: providing him 2 choices, giving him free reign of whatever to wear, giving him time limits then putting him in something if he hasn't done it first, bribes, loosing patience and shouting (obviously not proud of that one.) It was so bad last week I had to ask his grandparents to have him last week for a day rather than pre school as I had an exam.
The above is all accompanied with hitting/biting/strangling/kicking from him if you try put clothes on. He's never been violent previously with us or other children/adults. Alongside this he talks constantly over everyone all day. He's always been chatty but currently it's none stop, he doesn't wait for responses and doesn't seem to be aware of others talking, so doesn't follow instructions anymore.
Im getting to the point of wondering if there is something deeper going on. He's still so young and whilst his demeanour hides it well he is a sensitive boy so i dont want to start getting to early conclusions about a problem that's not there, but I'm at a complete loss of how to support/enforce some rules with him.