Considering Reaching out to other parent?

[PepsiColaa]

Hi has anyone reached out to their ex and demanded they step up with the children? I am not coping with them on my own and I have no family that will help, at what point do you reach out, has anyone done this and did they help?

@PepsiColaa are you civil with the ex to be able to sit down and talk about support you might need?? Is there any groups at school or elsewhere that might be able to help?

We haven’t spoken in 2 years so I’m not sure what his reaction to contact would be. I don’t find the schools help particularly helpful if I’m honest (though they mean well)

@PepsiColaa is there any groups for single parent like gingerbread??

There probably is but I really need physical help

Sorry but if they haven’t bothered in 2 years then I don’t think you reaching out and demanding is going to work.
do they pay child support?
how many children, what ages?

No they don’t pay child support but not entirely sure why that’s relevant as child maintenance and contact aren’t linked

Well they are, the more the other parent has their kid the less maintenance they will have to pay.

but I would be looking into getting them to pay, if anything the money could help you get support, babysitters, childminder, activities etc. If they aren’t even financially providing for their children at the moment it’s not likely they will suddenly step up and actually look after them just because you ask.

Doesn’t work so doesn’t need to pay so unfortunately that isn’t an angle that would appeal to him.

im sorry that you’re struggling but I don’t think you can force the other parent to step up unfortunately.

If you’re struggling you could speak to Homestart or Gingerbread or the School or HV depending on the ages of your DC

I wasn’t going to force just ask, my kids are too old for those organisations and school don’t offer help that is actually helpful to me