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High maintenance baby

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Emdoo · 18/07/2025 10:47

Mums does anyone else had such a high maintenance baby, my lg is 9 months old and she has always been so cranky all day everyday since birth. She had colic up until she was 4.5 months old, milk allergies and reflux have been ruled out by the paediatrician. The paediatrician just told me it just sounds like she is high demanding and this is just her little personality. It gets very overwhelming at times, it’s like my lg gets so bored of being in one place no matter were we are or even with her toys, she ends up having an absolute meltdown. I understand babies cry but this is on another level and I just feel like I can’t go anywhere and make memories with my baby and it breaks my heart! I see little babies when I go out and they just seem so calm and settled and I just feel like why me 😔

Has anyone ever been through this, if so when did things get easier for you, a lot of people have said when there baby turned 1, but then I’ve heard a lot of other ages.
Hope someone can help❤️❤️

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elQuintoConyo · 19/07/2025 09:32

Oh, I hear you!

DS had colic until 5months. Hated the car - would scream blue murder - so any suggestions if 'just drive him around until he falls asleep' were just unwelcome nonsense. We tried everything, including lactose-free formula (whatever it's called).

He got better at 5mo when he started crawling, and I don't remember when we put him in a high backed booster seat in the car but fuck me that made a huge difference! He started walking a little before 9mo and cheered up, but then it was Benny Hill chases EVERYWHERE - house, street, museums, park, supermarket.... He wasn't a sit-and-colour toddler, he'd finger paint for 5 minutes thatd be it, no interest in sitting watching TV, having a book read to him. Just action and chaos - so we did activities with him: mostly park, puddle jumping, chasing seagulls on the beach. He had a little sit-on motorbike you pushed along with your feet and would scoot 100mph. When I bump into people from our old neighbourhood they always ask after ds and comment on how they'd watch him fly round the park (he's 14yo now!).

I don't think he liked being a baby, and with stomach pains, wanted to be up looking, moving, running, independence. DH and I would get him involved in everything - cooking, loading the washing machine, pairing socks, tidying toys, gardening - I drew a fire, in chalk, across the garden fence and ds would spend ages "putting it out" with a watering can 😆

So I'm suggesting activity after activity, lots of love and kisses and hugs, swallow frustrations. But don't ever compare your child to others - that way lies madness. DS is a potato only when asleep!

I send ((hugs))

Lafufufu · 19/07/2025 09:34

Easy babies don't mean easy toddlers or easy children and vice versa

Mine got easier/ more enjoyable when they could walk, nonverbally communicate, and then talk....
Hang in there

VivaVivaa · 19/07/2025 13:14

DS1 was exactly as you describe.

He got better with each developmental milestone. He’s still a pretty intense and demanding child at age 5. He’s also very clever, loyal, perceptive and witty. As he’s got older a lot more positive sides to his temperament have emerged, which were not apparent as a baby.

I have to say I largely disagree with a PP. Generally the high needs babies I have known have turned into high needs toddlers and children…not that that’s all a negative though, we need type A personalities in society. The laid back babies have largely become laid back children. I think the building blocks of personality are present from day 1.

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Alwayslearning25 · 19/07/2025 13:30

I had this but with my second child, so not just seeing others will chill babies but rembering my chill first and the way I could enjoy trips out with her, or going to cafes etc. I found my second got easier when he could walk and talk. One of his first words was door because he always wanted to leave at get out the door! He is now a very independent 2 year old, and very sociable. Past two days he work up and got dressed. If I headed his way he started screening go away. Even though he made a fuss fighting his clothes, he doesn't want help and can tell me. And getting up and dressed independently is a good thing. Not so many opportunities to be independent at 9 months though. He did like to explore everything at that age. But 9 months was a terrible age for him, didn't like food, didn't drink much of a bottle, just wanted to breastfeed or crawl about putting things in his mouth he shouldn't, that his big sister might leave lying around.

Alwayslearning25 · 19/07/2025 13:32

@VivaVivaa I think my 2 year old is witty and perceptive too... but my oldest was a chill baby but a demanding toddler with tantrums, perfectionist and not wanting other children near her... lockdown happened too though.

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