Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Hate my life

10 replies

Hatelifenow · 18/07/2025 10:43

I hate myself and I hate my life, prepared for a lot of judgement but unless you are in this situation you will not understand how hard it is, my daughter is autistic and hasn’t been to school for 3 years, no mainstreams will take her as they can’t meet needs but LA won’t give a special school (currently going through tribunal) she has high needs and I’m exhausted, haven’t had a second away from her in 3 years, I have other kids in school that I have to take to school in the morning, she’s always refused to come and that’s always been fine it’s 20 mins and she’s been fine whilst I’ve taken them, until today. She had a meltdown and left the house, I came home and found about 5 people on my door step telling me she had ran out the house, they called the police on me who are now doing a safe gauging referral and I can’t take anymore I hate my life and this feels like the final straw, please don’t say Ss will help, they don’t I’ve had them involved before and all they did was judge me and treat me like scum, I literally hate this life not looking for sympathy I’m sure I will be ripped to shreds but I had to get this out somewhere

OP posts:
overthinker001 · 18/07/2025 10:48

How old is DD? I’m not here to judge, not in your situation but life is pretty rough here at the moment too. I know what it’s like to need to vent. Offering you a listening ear if you need one 🫶🏼

Hatelifenow · 18/07/2025 11:03

She’s 14

OP posts:
ExploringDreams · 18/07/2025 11:44

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. Did she ever get referred to Camhs?

itsallsohard · 18/07/2025 12:01

Use the safe guarding referral. It probes that she needs more than you alone can do. And do NOT feel embarrassed by it. This may be the breakthrough you needed.

itsallsohard · 18/07/2025 12:01

*proves

Hatelifenow · 18/07/2025 12:03

More than me alone? So she will be taken away?

OP posts:
itsallsohard · 18/07/2025 12:04

BTW I say this as the mother of an autistic child myself.

Mrsttcno1 · 18/07/2025 12:05

Hatelifenow · 18/07/2025 12:03

More than me alone? So she will be taken away?

It could open doors for things like respite care, gives you further support for things like your school applications- it is evidence of truly how difficult things have become. It sounds awful, but you NEED that evidence to prove what you already know; she has high needs and requires more than you alone are able to give her. The more evidence you have of that the more support you can push for.

itsallsohard · 18/07/2025 12:06

No, so they'll be forced to supply help. Show them you've bern asking and asking for help... don't be afraid of authority, but don't let them grind you down. we'll be rooting for you!

Hatelifenow · 18/07/2025 12:31

They’d probably just force me to send her to the nearest mainstream, that she wouldn’t cope in, they can’t make the LA give her a special school

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread