Tell me Im being stupid for being upset

[orangehead]

ds's aged 4 and 6 have recently started seeing thier father again who walked out on us when ds2 was 3 weeks old and he has had very little to do with them since nor does he support them fiancially in any way. Anyway ds2 aged 4 has anounced he wants to move in with daddy. My brian tells obviously not to take this serious, daddy is a novelty at the moment, plus his personality is that he says want he wants at that moment in time and 10 mins later something else is his favouite thing and he has forgotten about the other iykwim. I know how much ds2 loves me. But yet I just feel as if my heart has been torn out,why am I being so stupid [need to act like mature adult]

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of course your not being stupid - really feeling for you. I would feel the same way. But as you said - that's children isnt it? Anything new is exciting and better than us boring old mums. Sorry I cant help more - sure someone will come along with brill advice soon xx

Ouch!

I'm guessing that he hasn;t thought through that moving in with Daddy means not living with mummy though. Daddy is a new toy - only time will tell whether the novelty weears off when he is told off for something.

I can sympathise though. Logically you know you're the most important person in his world but doens;t stop you wincing a bit when they say this kind of thing.

your not stupid for being upset-putting myself in your shoes id be devestated hearing that but your brain(or brian !)is right.hes 4,ofcourse if daddys not been there he's seen as exciting,its something different,a novelty.you are not stupid!and anyone of us would be sobbing!

without sounding too paranoid/cynical - this isn't something that your ex might have suggested to him is it?

I don't think you're stupid for being upset, it's completely understandable.

Second what dior said, it's not a reflection on you - it's just something new and exciting for him.

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I had that thought too bluewolf..

I know Im crap at spelling . Just having glass of wine now and waiting for my bath to run. Thanks for replies, surprising how typing it makes you feel better.
Blue I honestly wouldnt put it past him, but think ds1 would of told me, he tells me most thing, although sure that wont last

bath and wine sounds lovely!
has he suddenly appeared back on scene?

He had not seen them for two years, he started seeing them in January after going to court because he thought he could just come back and just have them without consideration that they didnt know who he was and because last time he had them two years previously he neglected them

when i was about 15 my parents seperated and i remember telling my mum i wanted to live with my dad.i remember the pain and upset on her face,it still upsets me now rembering how id made her feel.i was older than your ds but justwanted to say i can imagine how your feeling even if im not in that situation.