Toddler preference to one parent

[rotana]

My DS is 18 months old and I am finding it difficult to see that he prefers the company of my DH when he is upset. I feel like the spare as there is nothing I can do to console him and if I pick him up he gets more upset still and wants to run to daddy.
I feel childish having these feelings but I suppose that I need to acknowledge them if I want to know how to deal with them. I would like to hear from someone else's experience on this matter and how they manage to overcome feelings of being left out. My DH keeps saying that I should not link my emotions to what DS does or does not, that I will be very upset all my life. I know he is right but...any way any feedback will be appreciated. Thanks

I always work on the principle that you shouldn't take it personally, simply because my own mother was mortally offended that I seemingly preferred my dad to her. My own dcs preferences change, sometimes they prefer dh, others they prefer me.

And if you think about it, they must be very secure in the knowledge that you love them to display a parental preference.

i think you woudl get more answers if you posted on teh parenting topic

IME it goes in phases. I was delighted when ds went through a 'daddy' phase as I was finding it a bit wearing being the favourite. At the moment both children are in a 'mummy' phase and I will be jolly glad when it is over: they love both of their parents and I feel quite secure about that. HTH, sorry it's hard to take at the moment.