Nursery mornings a nightmare

[AlexisP90]

DS 3. Been in childcare since 9 months. Nursery since November. Hes just moved up to the pre school room (in June) and since then it's just been absolute hell in the mornings.

He cries his eyes out wont leave to go in the mornings, cries all the way there and all the way in.

When hes there they say hes fine and hes happy at pick up but for the last month (since he moved to the big room) the mornings are absolutely painful. I feel utterly awful even taking him most days.

We don't have a car right now (being repaired ) so it's even harder. Im guessing it's the transition to the pre school room.

Any advice on how I can make things a little easier? Probably just a time thing im guessing.

To add complexity we are moving next month and he will be at a new pre school from end of September.

Hes never been a big fan but mostly been fine until now (had a winge some mornings but still happily strolled in)

I don't know what im doing wrong. I feel like im failing a little bit when I see the other mums taking in their chirpy happy toddlers and im dragging mine in.

I think you need to talk to them more, if they say he's fine that's not really enough. Clearly he's holding some stress in from the day.
Do they have any kind of parent days? At our preschool there used to be specific days parents could come in for an hour or so and see things they did and make something with the kids.
It's hard to understand but the staff are key to working out what's going on.
Another option is there is no shame in moving him elsewhere if there are places. Maybe he's just vibed badly with that place and a change will reset things.
In the long term, it's tough when your child doesn't seem to fit in with the others. It's easy to say but you just have to change your expectations. When my son is lying on the floor and all the others are going in normally, I've got to the stage where I just wait patiently. No one else cares, in fact they hardly notice, so it was only really me that had to get used to it.
Hopefully your little one will grow out of it but even if they don't, you'll still have to support them, and your job is just to support them rather than making sure they are going in cheerfully like the others.
Good luck!

We have done atay and play with him and seen pictures and videos and he looks like hes loving life running around playing getting stuck into activities.

Maybe that's not every day but he seems OK when hes actually there. Which makes it even harder.