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Help a poor 'mummy dummy' out please!

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Unsure4589 · 15/07/2025 10:42

My EBF demand-fed 7 month old has become a little too dependent on the boob for comfort (not food) for sleep throughout the night, and I'd like to work on that. Any tips?

He's less dependent during the day. I can pop him in his crib or bassinet and he'll go down for a nap. But at night, whenever he wakes he wants the mummy dummy to get back to sleep. He would go for hours on end with my nipple in his mouth and often wakes pissed off if I'm the one to gently remove it.

He's a purist too! Won't take a dummy (we've tried all kinds all ways), and isn't keen on a bottle at all. He hates his next-to-me crib in the middle of the night, but will sleep in it for naps and the first stretch of the night just fine. I feel like we're so incompatible because I truly HATE co-sleeping and find it wrecks my sleep, so it's been a rough time on that front with the mummy-dummy issue.

He's outgrowing his next-to-me, and we need to transition him into a cot that's too big to have right next to our bed. I'm dreading it. Eventually, he'll be in a room with his sister.

Does anyone have any ideas on replacing the nipple with another form of comfort? I want to comfort him obviously, but what he's demanding right now isn't going to work for much longer.

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Devilsmommy · 15/07/2025 10:51

That sounds so hard that he won't take a dummy when you know it would give him the comfort he needs. Have you tried some kind of soft toy that he could chew on when he's lying down?

Unsure4589 · 15/07/2025 15:06

thanks! It’s maddening! He’s got a jellycat duck that I’m forcing on him nonstop but he’s not interested. My eldest wasn’t overly fussed by dummies or toys either but she wasn’t nearly as attached to the boob for comfort and took a dummy eventually. Not sure what to do really!

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BackThen8878 · 15/07/2025 17:53

Any cuddly toys in his crib are a suffocation risk until around 12 months.

Moving him to a big cot might improve his sleep, my son loves being able to roll around, we had to move him at 5 months when he was rolling. It really improved his sleep, having more space. We got a good 7.30 pm - 2am stretch from the get go and still do.

My EBF baby also rejected all dummies, it's terrible.

The only solution I have been given is sleep training. Send DH in to settle him with a cup of water. We tried that and it went down horribly 😂 so I am still breastfeeding in the night at 11 months but the wake ups are much fewer now. Usually around 2 am and 5 am.

Teething and illnesses set us back massively each time though. He wakes like hourly then.

I feel you on cosleeping, I hate it with a passion. I have a bad hip so sleeping on one side all night is actual physical painful torture. It also taught my son to want a nipple in his mouth all the time which was really the opposite of helpful.

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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 15/07/2025 17:55

Is he teething? Both of mine were like this age when teething as suckling helps with the teething pain. Im afraid I dont have any good advice I just suffered with intense sleep deprivation until the phase passed.

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