Night time routine with Newborn - Is this the best way or is there better?

[Motherof1and2dogs]

I just want to see if there are any other ways that others might think is more beneficial.
I am very lucky to have my husband for 5 weeks for paternity leave. He is taking 2 weeks off, then he goes back for 2 weeks, then is taking the final 3 weeks off after that.

At the minute he has chosen to take on every night shift while he is off work which I think is very lovely of him but worried this might not be the best way. The current plan is he goes to bed at around 7pm when our toddler goes to bed and then I wake him at about 11/12 to swap, then he will sleep in the lounge with baby and do the feeds/ nappy changes through the night and will wait until I wake up to let me sleep all the way through. He will then have a nap at sometime during the day.

I personally think taking it in turns to do the night feeds is the best way but I could be wrong.

I would love to hear what others do/ have done before with night time routine as we may well be missing an even better way to do it!

We started with a shift pattern for the nights, I did any feeds/wake ups between 9pm-12, my partner did 12-3, then I did 3-6, and my partner got up for the day at 6 so I could lie in. We had baby in a cot in the living room whilst the other slept in bed upstairs.
After about 4 weeks baby was waking up less frequently so we switched to a 9-1am and 1-5 shift, still with baby in the living room. And at 6 weeks when my partner went back to work we put baby in our bedroom and we slept in the same bed as I really needed the closeness with my partner. But we were lucky that baby was waking up maybe 2 times a night and would settle straight away after a feed.

When do you both get your best rest and when do you work best?

I'm a night owl and find being up in the night way easier than an early morning. My partner is a lark and struggles with being awake in the night but is ok with early mornings. I've done the majority of the night wake ups and he has always taken my daughter in the mornings so I can get some better quality sleep then. It's worked well for us, or first is almost 5 and doesn't reliably sleep through

I think this topic is such an individual one as it depends on so many factors. That wouldn’t work for me or my husband -I’d be awake as soon as it got light and he would struggle to nap, so neither of us would be getting a decent amount of sleep. I think you need to make your own judgement really. I do all the nights as I’m BF and no point both of us being tired but in the early weeks when the baby seemed to settle for a few hours around 4/5am my husband would get up and take him downstairs so I could sleep more peacefully then. We did the same with our older child. It works for us.

I found i felt really unwell unless I managed 4h uninterrupted sleep at some point in the night, so we tried to manage things so we both got 4h as some point. Otherwise you manage as best you can.

We did the same as you but reversed, as a previous poster said it depends when you get your best sleep. I am also fine with early mornings but don't like staying up late which made sense for us.

We did 2 shifts so we both got some solid sleep. DH did 8pm-2am and I did the rest of the night. He did a bit more in the first 2 weeks while I was recovering from a C-section.