how do i deal with mum guilt: i’m a mother of 4 beautiful girls, 17,13.12 and 1 , my husband was diagnosed with kidney failure when youngest was 2 days old, i don’t get help or support and i work full time as i have my own business, my MH has taken a massive dip, i feel like im suffocating, my husbands mum takes the 1yo over night once a week but the guilt is horrible: i feel guilty towards my baby everyday: i cry because i need a break but when i get a break a sit and cry because i feel guilty . her grandma absolutely adores her and i know she is well looked after , i just cannot relax when she is gone she is 18months now and into everything . I also argued with my husband last week because i’m starting to feel resentful , he has diabetes and was told years ago he is poorly controlling his health and he will end up really poorly but he didn’t listen he carried on with his lifestyle .now i’m a full time carer and work full time too as the main provider for us both and the 4 children i used to have an amazing career and social life before the youngest baby and he promised to parent 50:50 but obvs not been able to happen: i just feel like he dosent help himself i am 36 and he is 49, i do think i had PPD after my baby because of the stress . but i just cannot shift the feeling of guilt 😭