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"I can train your child in 3 days" claim on website (Potty Training) - TRUE / FALSE???

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SwissCheese · 26/05/2008 13:31

Hello to all of us who fall into any of the categories of Potty Training! Past, present and future...
I've been surfing the web for a chart to give my DS some encouragement and the steps to take (I was originally looking for the well-known nappy brand that had a chart included in a trial pack that my DH threw out .
During my surfing I came across a couple of websites that claim any child can be potty trained in 3 days to keep dry / clean both day and night. One site was called webmommies and I wondered if anyone had heard of the system and if it was a scam or not. I am dubious of sending money to get an ebook to anyone esp if they are talking 'pants'!
I mean - if it was possible to train any child in three days, why aren't we all doing it?????!!!!

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Pollyanna · 26/05/2008 13:40

I have done it in 3 days for all of mine (4 children) and with 3 of them they were dry at night at the same time too.

for me, it was just a case of waiting until they were completely ready (ds was a week off his third birthday), which may have been longer than many people think is "socially acceptable" - the web site you are talking about may have different claims/methods of course.

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SwissCheese · 26/05/2008 13:50

Pollyanna, how did you prepare your children for it? You've obviously got the right approach.

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Spidermama · 26/05/2008 13:52

IME they do it when they're ready. Mine have all done it themselves and pretty much straight away when they decide to.

I think accidents and stress occur when you're trying to do it too early for them.

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CoteDAzur · 26/05/2008 13:53

DD recently potty trained and was dry day and night in three days. She was 2.7 and wanted to do it herself.

What to her interested was:
(1) a book about a kid using the potty
(2) her friends going to the toilet (and DD watching)

And once she wanted to use potty/toilet:
(1) a big bag of M&Ms, out of which she got 1 every time she used potty/toilet.
(2) when she had accidents, calmly told her it wasn't good to do it outside potty/toilet (I don't agree with the current advice to ignore accidents. Friends who followed that route found their kids don't see accidents as a problem and keep having them)
(3) carried potty around with us in the car for a week
(4) ignored her when she didn't want to poo in potty, and eventually (after 2 days) she did it there (friends who put nappy on for poos regret it because their kids don't want to let it go for the poos)

Good luck.

Pollyanna · 26/05/2008 15:47

I waited until they asked in each case, although ds1 needed a bit of a nudge, but he was quite obviously ready.

I have done night at the same time as day in each case as they all seemed to be confused that they could pee in their nappies at night but not in the day - in each case they were dry at night at the same time as in the day (including my ds1). The only time I didn't do this (I read mumsnet in this case ), it took ages to train my dd at night.

Tommy · 26/05/2008 15:48

agree with waiting til they're ready. It was really hard work with DS1 but DS2 decided to do it himself and it was much quicker and more straightforward with him

SofiaAmes · 26/05/2008 16:05

Both of mine were toilet trained in just a few days by my childminder when they were under 2 years. We initially just did daytime and then about 6 months later did nighttime (though at this stage they were just dry at night and we didn't have to actually do anything).
The childminder had a very simple system. She would keep the child in their underwear all day (to save on washing clothes if there were accidents and make it easier for them to get onto toilet) and put them on the toilet (balanced on regular toilet, no inserts or potties) every 20 minutes. Because of the sheer frequency of being put on the toilet at least some of those times they peed/pooed on the toilet and began to understand the sensation of doing it on the toilet. Of course there was a lot of encouragement and praise too. She said that she had never failed with this method with any of her mindees. My ds took 2 days and never had an accident afterwards. Dd took a few more and every so often would have an accident when she was excited or tired, but really for practical purposes was toilet trained.

I would skip paying money to a website and just do a little research on the internet or maybe just try my childminder's system...it really is as easy as it sounds.

Hulababy · 26/05/2008 16:15

DD was sorted by day 3 too, led by herself at 24 months. She was not dry until night for over 3 years later though, despite her being desperate to be dry at night.

Daytime training was a doddle for us in the end though. She was ready. She led the way and it was no hassle.

Oblomov · 26/05/2008 16:23

3 days ?? EASY. As Pollyanna says it , it comes down tot he child being ready. If the child isn't ready it takes days/weeks/months of turmoil.
I totally accept that it can be done in 3 days.

Hulababy · 26/05/2008 16:24

There is no way anyone could have got my DD dry at night in 3 days - well not until they waited until about now, age 6 - and I wouldn;t advocate that as a apid for solution, lol!

laurz75 · 26/05/2008 20:09

Ha ha! try getting my ds to sit on the potty/toilet/whatever every 20 mins - not likely!!!!!! Pretty much there now but took LOT longer than 3 days !

Journey · 26/05/2008 20:26

Yes you can but only if your child is ready for potty training. Don't waste your money on the ebook.

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SwissCheese · 27/05/2008 20:24

I have been trying the 20 mins routine today, setting a timer, and apart from two very minor mishaps, DS was dry all day. Yes, it does involve hard work and 20 mins feels like 5 mins if you're trying to do lunch or other things, but we even managed a family walk with the dog, stopping for the compulsory wee, along the way. DH and DS are really pleased with the results.
AMAZED!!!

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SofiaAmes · 28/05/2008 01:40

I'm so glad that it's working!!! The other thing that dh did fairly soon after ds was toilet trained, was teach him how to wee standing up and aiming at things (at the seaside and in the park). Amazing how "grownup" boys are just as pee happy as 2 year old ones. And of course counting lumps of poo is always a good standby.

solo · 28/05/2008 01:58

4 days for Ds during the day...6 months later at night. He was 2.
Looking to try Dd in a few months too, but will wait until she's about 20 months I think.
Just try it without spending money. I'm sure there must be threads on here where MNetters have done it in a particular way.
Good luck!

seeker · 28/05/2008 02:59

It is entirely possible to get a child out of nappies (at least during the day) in 10 minutes. You only have to wait until they are completely ready. Or, if you start before they are ready it can take 6 months!

Night time is different - there is a particular hormone that's released at different ages in different children that makes it possible for them to be dry at night and it is useless to try before this happens - they just aren't physically capable of doing it.

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SwissCheese · 28/05/2008 16:24

The only issue I have discovered DS doesn't like is poo-ing in the loo. He'll 'keep' it ALL day and then do it whilst he's asleep in bed. That is unusual as he normally goes quite regularly during daytime.

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BlueberryPancake · 28/05/2008 20:34

It is not a contest. I felt no time pressure and didn't want my DS to feel time pressure eather. In all honesty, I think that people tend to paint a very rosy picture of how their DC was trained in such a short time and was all so good about it. For me it took about two days for poo and two weeks for wee, which I think is pretty good. He just is a very 'busy' boy and spends a lot of time outdoors and just forgot. For him, having a wee break was to stop playing, and it took a few days to get over that. And many toddlers have the odd 'accident' afterwards, even when older, if they are very excited. They just forget or are too busy playing to stop.

I'm sure it is 'possible' in theory, but hey we're not all at that high level of parenting, and franky I'm not bothered if it takes a bit longer. No pressure...

SofiaAmes · 29/05/2008 02:11

Have you tried counting lumps of poo? Maybe have a family contest. Or at least a daddy and son contest.

desperatelyseekingsleep · 29/05/2008 14:13

Sorry to hijack this thread but ds1 is 3 and is still stubbornly refusing to go to the toilet rather than in his nappies. So my question is, how do you know when they're completely ready? We had a failed attempt at 2.9 which was such a complete disaster that I'm dreading trying again.

CoteDAzur · 29/05/2008 18:03

Did you offer chocolate every time he does anything on the toilet or potty?

BlueberryPancake · 29/05/2008 22:12

I don't know if it would help but we have this really funny book called 'Aliens love Underpants' and it's not related to potty training at all, but it's a funny story about aliens coming to earth to try our underpants! My son loved it,and he really really wanted to wear underpants after we read the book a few times. We got him really nice knickers of Thomas and of Noddy, and he really didn't want to get them wet or dirty.

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SwissCheese · 30/05/2008 09:41

He really struggles with the thought of it I think. However even as I typed this (drum roll) he just ran in to see me saying: Help! I've got a problem! And second-guessing I took him to the loo and he did one very small poo. He's really chuffed! So I did the conga with him around the house to get him a reward and stick his stickers on the chart! Here's hoping this is the start!

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misdee · 30/05/2008 09:46

its possibly to get your child dry in under 3 days as longh as the child is ready. dd1 was almost 4, as she was scared to get rid of the nappies, but only ever had one accident and tyhat was my fault as i couldnt get the key in the front door quick enough.

dd2 was trained in 2 days at 2.5years old. she was dry at night a few weeks later.

dd3 was trained this year completely in under a day. has had a couple of accidents, but has been dry at night before she was dry in the day.

CurrantBun · 30/05/2008 11:00

So - how do you know if your child really is ready? How can you tell?

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