Hi everyone,
Very long story. My son was premature baby, so lots of hard days and nights. My husband was always very supportive, we used to share childcare 50/50 when I came back to work and everything was OK.
However, for the last couple of years he (now 6 years old) developed some serious health problems which we had no idea about (breathing, Asthma, etc). Also, he was diagnosed with ADHD. Life is hard, we have bad nights when he vomits, coughing attacks,etc. So basically someone needs to stay with him .
I'm stay at home mum of 2, have a toddler too. Since the second son was born, my husband completely lost interest in our first born- doesn't want to talk, play, walk with him. Constantly angry on him (he has hyperactive ADHD and can be really challenging).
My husband has trauma from his childhood when his stepdad hated him and loved only his brother, I can clearly see my husband repeats this pattern too. Also, I believe he feels ashamed of our son, his behaviour is different from other, healthy kids in public and husband always embarrassed at park or any public place.
I am very tired and started to think that our life (me+kids) would be easier without husband....I spoke with him million times, tried to organise their time together. Nothing works. I'm tired TO ASK my husband to say "good night " for our son.
This evening I was putting toddler to bed and heard my elder son was struggling to sleep because of blocked nose. My husband was on his phone in the next room and clearly heard it, however I came back and had to give him medication, inhale him by myself.
Does anyone left their partner for this? I feel I start to hate my husband for his behaviour....