Neighbours banging when child makes noise

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I have a 18 month old who is typical for their age in stomping around, throwing toys, playing, shrieking etc. it’s not excessive all day as we visit the park daily and go for walks, but we also spend time in the play room or garden.
I have noticed my neighbour has become very noisy in recent weeks, she bangs on the wall, slams doors and has music on full volume from 6am to 11pm. I have overhead a passive aggressive comment in the garden that she is sick of my child’s laughing and playing…
the crazy thing is that she has a 6 month old who will be doing the same very soon!
My husband tried to talk to her husband about the noise and he claimed innocence and didn’t know what he meant. Basically he wimped out of being honest and trying to find an amicable way to stay civil.
this has ramped up the noise, particularly in the evening when my child is asleep. Luckily he sleeps through anything but knowing they are doing this on purpose to punish a child for being a child is really infuriating.
Does anyone have advice for me please?

Start recording the noise, music shouldn't be on that loud, speak to your local environmental health noise department. Her 6 mo is being subjected to this so not sure why her husband doesn't do something. Do you own, rent, is there a residents association.

Thanks, we rent from a HA and they own theirs. It did make me worry for the baby as the noise must be hurting their ears. But I guess ‘revenge’ matters more to them!

I'd call your housing officer, they should know what to do about subjecting a baby to constant noise, whether it needs reporting. She may wrongly think owning her house gives her exrra rights. Or she could just be a effing tit.

You need to stop your child making so much noise. Perhaps their reaction is not appropriate but it's probably done out of desperation.

That doesn’t sound like normal kid behaviour if it’s constant except when you are out. Why is he throwing toys, stomping around and shrieking?

I wouldn’t expect a neighbour with a toddler to be super quiet but if I was dealing with this all day, day after day, it would be infuriating. Regardless of your circumstances, if you live in close quarters with other people, you need to at least try to be considerate.

Probably the noise from your child is waking up their baby, although their "payback" noise must be worse for their own baby.

Have you tried talking to her yourself? Probably between women can have a better discussion.

Try to decrease the stomping noise and shrieking, does your toddler wear slippers, have you got carpet, is the stomping up and down the stairs or on the floors.

This. Go and talk to her when her dh goes out (nicely though, yeah?)

Stomping and shrieking isn’t everyday noise. You can easily tell kids to stop that. Shrieking really is the worst.

t sounds like you’re handling things really well — toddlers are naturally noisy, and you’re clearly giving your child plenty of outlets with park visits and playtime. Your neighbor’s reaction seems more about her own stress than anything you're doing wrong. It’s frustrating, but don’t let her guilt you — kids laugh, play, and stomp. That’s normal. I’d document the noise retaliation just in case, and maybe leave a polite note offering to talk, but otherwise, hold your ground. You’re doing a great job.

Start keeping a diary and contact environmental health for their advice. If memory serves everyday household noise is considered normal and toddlers make toddler noises. They are not silent robots. Music however is considered a nuisance so she is being ridiculous.

Don't retaliate in any way, just go about your normal routine. I would document your every day, what time your child wakes up, when you go out, when you return home, what noise is coming from next door. When she starts banging on the walls immediately start recording video on your phone and narrate what is happening, so this is the noise level and this is what she is complaining about. Leave it running so that if you need to show this to the environmental health officer it isn't just your word against hers.

There are also decibel apps you can download onto your phone to see what the levels are for both your noise and hers.

Neither of my kids stomped or threw toys indoors without quick correction even at 18 months old. They can stomp and throw balls and frisbees etc outside. We don't run or shout in the house. They don't shreek anywhere. It sounds like your neighbour is retaliating to your unreasonable noise.

What are you doing to reduce the noise your child makes?

I am laughing at those people who think you can tell an 18 month old to stop making noise.

You canntry and reduce noise, especially stomping