Neighbours new baby

[Stressedandoverwhelmed]

Just want to preface this by saying I do suffer with social anxiety and massively overthink these sorts of situations so would appreciate any thoughts.

My next door neighbour has just had a baby. Would it be weird to pop my phone number in the congratulations card and a note to say here’s my number etc, just in case you ever want to meet up etc, be around an adult etc?

I do have 2 young children myself (1&3) so I know how boring/isolating it can be with a little baby but I don’t want her to think I’m being too presumptuous (she may have loads of friends to meet up with and think I’m an oddball for suggesting this).

Oh to have a brain that didn’t overthink every social interaction!

I think that is a lovely thing to do

Take a baby gift round in person and give her your number then.

Not wierd at all! A lovely thing to do. And if there’s no response (don’t expect one-that sort of thing is easily forgotten) do a follow up note in a couple of weeks when the initial excitement has calmed down.

I think that is a lovely idea

I would have appreciated this OP. Putting it in a card means there’s no pressure too

I really, really would have appreciated this OP. That is a lovely thing to do.

Yes that’s lovely. I would’ve appreciated this too!

A gift might be too much since you obviously don’t really know her but agree it would be much nicer to knock on her door and give the card in person and then offer your number then also.

I'm as socially awkward as they come but I would have loved this when I had DS.

Think it's so thoughtful.

That's a lovely thing to do - my neighbour already had my number when I had DD, and messaged me one day when she was about 3 weeks old to say her husband had seen my DH leave for work that morning (it was my first day alone with her) and suggested we went out for coffee. I really appreciated it.

Oh, I would have loved this! I felt so lonely at home with my newborn when DP went back to work.

I would absolutely do it, the worst she can do is not take you up on it

Ah thanks all for the reassurance. It’s so frustrating how anxiety makes you overthink the silliest of things.

I've done this, it was greatly appreciated and we still gather for coffees/play dates now 🥰

Absolutely yes OP.

im the same as you. But, remember as well, if she doesn’t message, she may also be the same.
I think back to first time mum, compared to now.

so don’t be disheartened if she doesn’t reply. And keep trying

Yes this sounds a great idea, but just once and leave her to it after that

I think this is a wonderful idea and I wish more people were like you OP. I'd have absolutely loved this.