Pre Teen Issues

[Silver1989]

Hi All,
I hope someone can help me or reassure me! Im very emotional and anxious at the moment, my 12 year old boy has suddenly decided to move in with his dad because i said no to playing video games all night and took controllers away. He called his dad and up and left, he hasnt been back since (2 Weeks), Ive not questioned him or put pressure just sent loving messages which he ignores. Ive spoke to his dad who says he wont force him to see me and hes fine where he is. Im just so worried that i wont see him again and that he hates me. I dont know if the legal route will make things worse. Im truly stuck between a rock and a hard place. Can anyone relate or help?

I would make the school aware and I would keep communication open with him.

I think reality will eventually come crashing down when his dad realises the hassle and expense of 6 weeks of summer holidays with a moody 12 year old. While we don’t allow any gaming, I know if mine stays up late at a friend’s house, she is a nightmare to deal with. That’s going to hit home when the novelty wears off and your ex is going to have to deal with those emotions and their behavioural implications. I expect he will be encouraging him back to yours in the next few weeks.

I would make sure when he does return that rules are firmly in place with the gaming. If it becomes a problem, get rid of it altogether. They can perfectly well entertain themselves without it if given the chance.