Can father refuse

[Lisa69861]

Good morning currently my ex has a court order for contact . I have residence he has contact he wanted minimal contact and constantly cancels as his wife lives back home in Albania . When ever he has contact he refuses to hand our daughter back to anyone but me . My 20 and 19 year old live at home if they go to the door he will refuse to hand her over . If her step dad goes to the door the same . He keeps telling her we r all dangerous and how she’s at risk in my care resulting in her telling him no and him shouting at her . ( this is what my daughter tells me as she comes home upset) she is 9 years old currently and completely hates contact to the point she refuses to go and I have to force her kicking screaming crying . I feel like my ex is trying to keep control . It was adv relationship . He got with me to be legal and he was illegal when we met I didn’t find out until I was pregnant and once he got his visa he left to be with his partner back home ( I didn’t know at the time ) either way he is still her father no matter what happened any advice please

She's 9. If she's crying and refusing contact with him, stop forcing her. It doesn't sound as though he's been consistent in her life anyway

I’m worried if I don’t send her he will take me back to court . When she knows she’s going to have contact she starts wetting her self . She has autism and learning disability that he fails to except

One of my lines in the sand was that I would never force my children to attend contact. I would encourage (not least because I need time off too), but never make them go.

Keep a diary of all of this behaviour (both his and hers), and let him take you to court if he wants. By the time he gets a date she'll be old enough that the court will definitely take her age into consideration.