Help and advice needed 😔

[Mama2025girls]

I’m currently going through the family court after applying due to issues with my ex when having our children.

He has a history of alcohol and substance abuse, and anger issues, and most recently our child had an accident and broke her arm in his care

we are currently waiting for a section. 7 report to be done, however there is a pre booked holiday that my ex has arranged to take our eldest aged 8, abroad for 2 weeks. My eldest is now saying she doesn’t want to go

there is no court order in place as yet until the section 7 has been completed, all that’s been noted from our first hearing is that we are each “allowed” to take the boys on any pre planned holidays until a final judgement has been made

my issue is obviously now, my child is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and I don’t know where I stand on then standing by her by saying she’s not going

any advice would be great or if anyone has been through anything similar.

I obviously don’t want anything coming back on me while we are going through this process, for example it looking like I’m refusing to let her go, but at the same time there are obviously many safeguarding concerns there from recent years and now our eldest telling both of us she doesn’t want to go

ive suggested compromising instead and can they do days out or a mini camping trip in the uk so she feels better, but ex isnt having any of it

I’ve raised it with Cafcass and all I’ve really been told is to obviously encourage her to go, but if there are concerns I can exercise my parental responsibility by not allowing visits etc, I’m so stressed and confused with what to do for the best

I’ve no idea on the legality but given the circumstances if my daughter didn’t want to go I wouldn’t want to make her. I hope everything works out for the best OP.

I can understand why you’re worried. What a bloody awful situation to be in.