Partner

[Gemmarebecca]

My partner is moaning as I was meant to go back to work part time but recently but doing about 30-40 hours he’s now getting pissed off with it as my grandparents have our daughter when I’m at work and if she’s not in nursery that day, he’s getting irrated by saying he will have to go part time as she needs one of us home

Your post makes no sense. What is he mad about?

He’s annoyed that I’m working most of the time while my grandparents have our daughter, he says at least one of us need to be at home with her when’s not at nursery

How old are your grandparents?

Pffft let him do so if it bothers him that much. Never let a man take away your financial freedom.

Well if the agreement is that you'd work part time so your daughter wasn't in childcare full-time and now you've changed that without discussion I can see his irritation, and he's saying he'll be the one to go part time if you want to work more, why is that an issue?

@TheCurious0range he earns more money then I would if I was full time double the amount I agreed wirh manager when went back would only do certain days, days daughter was at nursery and weekends so my grandparents would have her then but now I’m getting put on 5 days a week with two days off which is basically full time

I’ve also told my deputy manager that I feel like I’m doing to much what with trying to juggle young child, she’s not very supportive

how old are your grandparents
and does you partner get on with them

Are your grandparents able to care for her?
Are you paying them?

They didn’t want paying said they were happy to have when I went back if I needed them to have her, he gets on with them

It sounds like you're not happy to be doing the hours you are? If that's the case you need to be assertive with your boss and say I agreed 15 hours (or whatever it was), that's all I can do. You made it sound like you wanted to work more but your partner wasn't happy.

I never agreed to do All these hours and it’s starting to affect relationship with him as he sees that I’m doing all these hours and not spending time with our daughter

Why don’t you want to answer how old your grandparents are?

They are only 60 and they can care for her @Gurgletum

Well your partner seems to disagree

Your grandparents are only 60?? How old are you?

What do you want to do?
Do you want to work the extra hours?

They are between 65 and 70 grandad is 70 and Nan is 65 I’m only 26 @ToKittyornottoKitty they are still fit for their age my Nan still works two jobs when I was growing up she had 3 jobs grandad is retired but Nan doesn’t want to want to retire but they can still move about and walk and do everything and run about with her

@Stripeyanddotty Ive explained to my deputy manager that im struggling but she’s very rude and says partner should help out more but he does his best will have her if he’s off

Ah so not 60 then, that makes more sense! I don’t doubt they are fit and healthy, it’s nice for your child to have them. But it’s also understandable you don’t want to be full time

Contact acas or citizens advise and ask how to approach work. You are within your rights to just say no to the extra days? What do you do for work?

So not “60”

OP, what a bizarre thing to be sketchy about

@mumnet87 I work in hospitality so not the best sector really but they said when I went back well manager did that she would be okay with part time if I can do it I can do it but deputy wasn’t actually at the meeting as it was her day off but now been on like 37 hours and obviously while having a young child doesn’t help either luckily I’m not on evenings only like long day time shifts but sometimes it’s short notice

so in one post they’re only 60

in the next…. 65 and 70

Are you always a little…. Vague when it comes to the truth op?

if I had to hedge a bet, I’d side with the partner on this one. Just a feeling that the op is probably being a bit vague with quite a bit of detail

Your nan is 65, working 2 jobs and looking after your DC? Someone needs to give that woman a break.

Did you get your contract changed to reflect your new part time hours? Because you need to show that to the person doing the rota and make clear you're not working beyond your contracted hours.