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Separation anxiety desperation - please help

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SecretSloth99 · 01/07/2025 19:38

Firstly, I know it’s developmentally normal. But I am struggling hugely as I just can’t catch a break.

My LO is almost 8 months and for the last few weeks absolutely howls at my husband if he holds her, plays with her, etc etc, even if I’m in the room and sat right next to her. For example, at bath time recently, I was doing bath time and I shuffled over slightly to make room so my husband could join in and she just started screaming. He normally does bath time every night without much issue.

I’m playing peekaboo, trying to step away and come back (whilst she’s somewhere safe), trying to pop her down as much as I can so she’s not constantly being held by me. She also gets very upset when friends and family hold her too.

Long and short, I get very little break as a result and it makes my husband pretty miserable too - he’s an amazing dad and all he wants to do is spend time with her and give me time to relax and it’s just not happening at the moment.

What can I do to help her? Do we just wait it out? Anyone else with similar experiences?

Thankyou!

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MaxJLHardy · 01/07/2025 20:19

Suggest he takes her away from the house. Babies cotton on pretty quickly who their primary carer is when there’s only one present. You can then put your feet up.

Zapx · 01/07/2025 20:21

Second him taking her out. Park, soft play, swimming, if you’re not there, a lot easier for baby and him in my opinion 😊

SecretSloth99 · 01/07/2025 20:46

MaxJLHardy · 01/07/2025 20:19

Suggest he takes her away from the house. Babies cotton on pretty quickly who their primary carer is when there’s only one present. You can then put your feet up.

We do this sometimes and it doesn’t seem to help much. It’s also the fact that I’d like him to be able to take over when he gets home from work so I can get a break and it’s just not possible. Even if I leave the house she will scream her little heart out until I’m back and cuddle her.

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