10 year old been really naughty past two days please please advise me before I lose it.

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He is just rude and aggresive ,he is not bored and has plenty to do, day he is also happy and doing well at school.
I stopped him going on a sleepover yesterday because of his constant rudeness and chhek all day ,he has been the same all day today and has been barging into his Dad and calling us names we have sent him to bed as I can't think what else to do and he is just stood in the hallway refusing to go .

I know I sound a wuss and a crap mum but what else can I do if I physically try to move him he screams that I am hurting him really loudly (I'm not) and he is too big to just pick up and carry.

Blimey you could almost be describing my ds there! I've started to do comic strip social stories with mine, which work well and are an opportunity to show how their behaviour affects others without lecturing them.

Yr 5 or 6?

my dh would carry him up and make him stay there!

however, if you cannot do this, whilst he is stood in the hallway i would start removing thngs from his room to yours whilst calmly reminding him that until he does as he is told - you wll continue to do so.

at whatever point he choses to go back into his room, you kep the things in another room, only allowing him to earn them back daily with wgood behaviour - so start with the good things that he likes - tv or playsatin, or fav games.

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I like Custardo's suggestion. Are you bored Cod?

He is in Yr 5 .
He has now moved from the hall to the stairs ,my Dh has carried him up but he just comes back down .

I am going to try the removing things thankyou everyone .

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Oh fark off cod and go and buy some Boden

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You are right it is just hard after two days of constant brattishness.

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Ds1 is like this.

He refuses occisonally....it never lasts long though.

I'm in charge here.

ds1 talks to us like we're something he trod in, yet every of person he encounters says he's teh sweetest, most well mannored boy.

o I think I'm doing something right....

Cod speaks sense! You've got to say it and mean it. Is he usually pretty good? We are fast approaching the end of the school year, maybe he's starting to think about being in the last year of primary? I bet its been talked about at school.

When he's calmed down from this particular paddy, you need to sit down and talk calmly about what's getting to him. There's no reason, at 10 years old, that you can't talk reasonably to him and set some definate boundaries and rules.

BTW, you are not a shit mother, all those with lo's of 10 and over have been there. I know I have. The fact that you care enough to post about it, means you are trying to get it sorted before its too late. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Every person says that about my ds too LTH ,I sometimes wonder if we are talking about the same child.

Maureen I know I am not a shit mother I'm just having a shit day have one poorly DD , one stressed DD and Dp has just been made redundant (and no thats not why ds is been bratty he is always like it).

He is upstairs now been very quiet reading a book I will go up & talk to him in a while .

Don't want to come over too PC here, but is it a cry for help? My yr 5 son was getting a bit too much recently, really ott last weekend, to cut a long story short the dam broke and the poor kid started sobbing his heart out, really unhappy at school, been fibbing to Dad (who is stay at home parent) and school that everything is OK, hates life, feels worthless etc.
Trying to work through this with him, but I wish I hadn't spent the last few months haranguing him about the minutiae of imperfect behaviour when he was all alone and hurting.

Going to start another thread about this, but just a thought for this one.