DD is coming up to 2 and has seemingly had an overnight switch. She keeps having these long screaming meltdowns. Normally a few times a day and then for hours in the middle of the night. Been going on about 4 days. DH and I are exhausted. I just hit my third trimester with our second and am always tired anyway. DH normally does the "night wake-up" , (I do mornings and give him opportunity for a lie in if it's bad) but right now she's screaming so much that we are all awake anyway and it goes on for hours. Prior to this she's been in a really good way with sleep for months, getting herself down and very few night wakings but that's just gone to poo in an instant.
We've had a lot of changes recently, DH ( probably correctly ) thinks this is the cause and she's just super stressed. We moved house, then she got a virus and had to be off her normal activities.
I can't get it out of my head that her molars might be coming in. She puts her hands to her teeth when she's screaming but giving her painkillers/teething powders didn't help so I'm not just going to keep giving her them just in case. And they are always triggered by her not getting her own way.
I've asked friends and relatives irl and they just say it's terrible twos and it is what it is. Mentally I am really struggling though, especially with the idea that there is nothing I can do!
And she specifically seems to have gone off me. She really hates me trying to calm her. Recoils and flaps her hands if I go to pick her up and fights when I force it. This evening I wouldn't let her have a snack as I was making tea ( don't always say no, but I felt strongly about this.) she ended up loosing it. Lashing out when I tried to pick her up. I tried ignoring it in the end for maybe 15 mins but nothing changed. DH was WFH and had to come save the day which makes me feel so ashamed. He calmed her down and put her in her chair where she started eating tea but then when he went back to work she started crying "I wanty daddy" and I just ended up breaking down because there was nothing I could do to sooth her.
I don't think it's acceptable that it's turning into work stress for him as he has to take time away. I need a way to deal with it myself. I am going on MAT leave earlier this time because I wanted to spend that extra time with her but I don't know how I will cope