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Am I over reacting

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ThatPoisedCyanCrow · 23/06/2025 15:31

Hi so I have a question about a neighbor of ours.yesterday there son who I would say is about 4 or 5 was outside playing with my children 5 & 6. As we get into the car my children come to me and told me that the boy got his privates out and started weeing infront of hi my kids was visibly shocked that the boy exposed himself so I went to tell their parents and they didn't seem to appear concerned at all not just this occasions must mostly I let slide the always play on out front door bikes against our front door. They climb over our fence in the back and aslo they are outside naked at the front! It makes me feel very uncomfortable but I don't want to get onto the wrong side with neighbors but they sort of just stared at me vacancy and nodded. I'm not sure what to do or how to come across.

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ThatPoisedCyanCrow · 23/06/2025 15:31

Hi so I have a question about a neighbor of ours.yesterday there son who I would say is about 4 or 5 was outside playing with my children 5 & 6. As we get into the car my children come to me and told me that the boy got his privates out and started weeing infront of hi my kids was visibly shocked that the boy exposed himself so I went to tell their parents and they didn't seem to appear concerned at all not just this occasions must mostly I let slide the always play on out front door bikes against our front door. They climb over our fence in the back and aslo they are outside naked at the front! It makes me feel very uncomfortable but I don't want to get onto the wrong side with neighbors but they sort of just stared at me vacancy and nodded. I'm not sure what to do or how to come across.

Surely, surely this is a joke post. A 4 or 5 year old ‘exposing himself’?

Ok, if this isn’t a joke post, then don’t be so ridiculous. It’s totally normal. You have an unreasonable reaction to this which makes me think that there is some repression going on in your own childhood which you are bringing into your own children’s lives. There is nothing wrong with a 5 year old child’s naked body. You are the issue here.

MrsBrett20 · 24/06/2025 13:30

If their English isn’t very good, it could be that being naked is normal in their country. I’ve had friends from European countries who thought nothing to stripping off in front of us.

Anontocomment · 24/06/2025 15:34

I think the real issue here isn’t the boy widdling in the street, but the fact that OP has said the children are locked out of the house regularly, are climbing vehicles etc.

The first is a ‘meh’ if it’s a one off. The second is definitely a SS issue. And I say that as a Safeguarding Lead. They may not act, or they may look into it but if they are already aware of the family then it helps build a picture. If they aren’t already aware then it gives a heads up that there may be issues.

in your place I’d report; if you don’t want to talk to SS fair enough, ring the NSPCC and they’ll do it for you.

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Mumofferal3 · 24/06/2025 19:15

Tinkerbel64 · 24/06/2025 07:28

Nobody reading seems to have grasped the full extent of what's happening, I've read it as these young children are not being cared for in anyway at all, they know no different because they are not being taught by they parents how to behave in society, our children learn from us, with love by teaching them what is right from wrong , i think personaly it sounds like horrendous abuse & neglect to be locked out of they house's left totally unsupervised, the world we live in today is very scary & unsafe place to live in, social services need to be informed to help these children, they deserve to be be loved & cared for, reading all of this message from a concerned mum, has made me worry for they future welfare i seriously think they need to be reported as children at risk , you can report it anonymously do the right thing, help these children, a social worker will decide themselves what will be the best in this situation for these poor uncared for little children

Agreed.

I used to live next door to someone who sounds similar. They used to lock a toddler in a bedroom and he would climb in the window(single paned) and bang on it. My mother called the police and social services. If something were to happen to the kids, OP would it sit right with you? I'd imagine not, that should be the signal to say/do something.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 24/06/2025 23:21

ThatPoisedCyanCrow · 23/06/2025 16:15

Okay so I wrote it in a rush at the time what I am saying is, I am more concerned than annoyed. When young children get left alone unsupervised naked and one of them are about 9 years old. when I mean children it's 2 houses of the neighbors kids, they do not speak very good English. The children are mostly unsupervised and one of the parents lock their gates and and doors because the kids are always banging on it to go in. The young child throw dirty used nappies over my fence more that 1 occasions along with rocks, shoes, rubbish.... The kid climbs on high fences and just stares as me whilst I'm in the garden. I like my privacy and at the front it's a carpark where cars come in and out of all the time delivery vans so it's not exactly the safest place to be when they have there own gardens or the park down the road. They climb on the cars. One of the children had the car keys un supervised and started the car! They have thrown stuff at another neighbors window. They peak right inside my house when my windows open. It's more of a concern of where the parents are when they're at the front. 9/10 times they're left unsupervised naked and doing whatever. And the parents I spoke to just didn't care. They run off into the main road as I had to run after them once! Fair enough they don't do that anymore thank god. I'm not the greatest at communication myself let alone confront anyone. I just wanted the parents to be aware of what they was doing but not sure if the situation about getting the private parts out and weeing infront of the children was over reacting. 😅 I don't want to be confronted with naked children staring at me when im entering my own house. It's awkward and uncomfortable and no parents in sight.

Strange how this sounds entirely different to your original message 🧐

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 24/06/2025 23:26

Bangolads · 24/06/2025 08:44

So initially op was telling us that a young child took a wee in front of her kids. Then when we weren’t shocked and outraged it escalated into these kids aren’t being looked after properly. Just because they have different standards to you doesn’t mean it’s abuse (which is what I think you’re implying). So be very careful before you firebomb other people’s lives. If you don’t want to let your kids play with them anymore then don’t.

Exactly, sounds totally made up to me. If, however, it’s not, then report it!! No need to come on here asking our opinions. Crazy drip feeding if true.

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