11 year old girls - am I overthinking??

[Growingupistough]

Hi
Please can someone help put my mind at rest? Jist if it is we live in a road where my daughter and two girls are all in same class (6) and have been friends and played for years but lately the other two girls have done more together (even walking past our house to school) and not asking daughter (my daughter doesn’t seem aware and is happy walking on her own - she is bothered by looking at their social media etc yet) I have always encouraged lots of friends as opposed to BFFs and independence and although she likes to go out sometimes she is quite a homebody. I’m terrified of her being left out and having no one to walk to secondary school with. Should I tell her or totally butt out as she will realise for herself that these girls are probably not real friends as she will meet these at secondary school? I feel so hurt even when she doesn’t know. Thanks.

Why don't you encourage her to invite people round, if she likes to be at home?

I definitely would not be telling her that they're spending time without her (they are allowed to do that and it doesn't mean they don't like her btw). That would upset her for no reason.

Yeah, don’t tell her, but encourage her to initiate meet ups and walking together and see if they naturally include her.

She hasn't actually called on them or asked to walk with them, nobody has rejected her. Them walking together or hanging out doesn't make them not real friends, you sound too intense and as if you are projecting onto your daughter.

She is happy, she can call on them and invite them if she wants, nobody has been mean to her, these girls have reached out to each other and are closer as a result but it's taken nothing from your DD.

The only thing that will leave her with nobody to walk to school with is you getting involved and telling her your views on "real friends."

Hi thanks for responses. I wasn’t in any way suggesting they can’t be friends it was more the leaving her out I struggle with as they have always ‘hung out’ when younger. I appreciate things change and won’t tell my daughter as the last thing I want to do is hurt her. I understand things change but she is also going up to secondary with them so I guess I just don’t understand it and feel hurt for her if that makes sense. I’m sure it will all flip again come September!

Ps. It wasn’t that she didn’t used to try she’d knock and they would already be out together and not asked etc.