Advice needed - TW - child abuse

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Brief background - I have a very close friend who I got to know through our DDs, DDs have been friends since they were 2.5 and are now age 5, still close but in different schools.
My friends girl has made a friend in school who she has had a couple of play dates with. Yesterday out of no-where the little girl asked my friends child “do you like to eat your daddy’s willy”. Friend was obviously shocked and horrified and shut it down. Later she asked her DD if this girl had said anything else like that, and apparently this girl said “do you like to lick and suck your daddy’s willy like a dodie”. (Dummy)
I feel sick. My friend is going to report it to the school on Monday and I said if she is not satisfied with their response I will make an anonymous report to social services.
is there anything else we can do? Should do? Are we over or under-reacting?

I would just have reported straight to social services. That sounds very specific and needs investigating.

She is doing the right thing reporting it to the school and they will liase with SS if need be. Wait until you get a response before deciding what to do next.

This may or may not be the result of sexual abuse. It might, but it also might be a child who has heard an older brother/sister say something or if heard graffiti or something written down being read out by teenagers. So don’t immediately panic.

I wouldn’t be waiting until Monday. I’d phone the police non emergency number today.

This. You don't know what might happen this weekend, so I'd not wait. Even if it's just that they are being exposed to inappropriate things rather than experiencing them, it's still abuse. I'd go straight to social services, not delay it.

A five year old remembers what a another 5 year old said and can repeat it to the mother?? Are you sure about this OP

That’s a good point.
There have been some weird posts tonight

I dont think either of you are over or under reacting, and I would not be informing SS over the weekend.

One would really, really hope someone wouldn't troll about something like this. It's just despicable.

Yeah I also think it’s a troll now. Have reported the post

From my experience working in SS, it's worth reporting it on the weekend. Even if no immediate action is taken, I'd have got the report when I reported in first thing Monday morning and it would have gone to the top of my priority pile. Even if it's not actioned till then, at least it gets the ball rolling.

If it's a troll, they're sick in the head.

Do five year olds not have a working memory? I don't find that hard to believe.

Not a troll. I promise I’m genuine. You can check my posting history, I’m here a while.

How come you think it's a troll? Just genuinely curious

Please report to SS ASAP. I would even be going as far as ringing the non-emergency police number right now and asking them for advice, tbh.

Thanks to those who reported. It's worth us saying that while can never guarantee any poster is genuine, the OP has been with us for a while now and so we're okay to let this thread run. We've moved it to Parenting.

Of course they can! Even my nearly 3 year old randomly tells me things that their childminder said, and my 5 year old can accurately tell me about specific things that were said at school if I ask.

Thank you for the replies and advice. After the first. comment I did wonder also if it was an older child saying or showing her things (she has older cousins apparently) but I’m not sure how the second comment could be explained by that. I am going to look up the local social work team. We are in Ireland so it’s managed by national agency Tusla as opposed to local authorities like in UK.

Possible kid heard it in passing…one of the cousins has spoke about bjs/sucking to a friend and kid overheard and asks if they mean like dummies. Doesn’t necessarily mean anything sinister but I’d want it to be investigated where they heard it from. Child may have walked in on their parents also.