Hi All
First time poster here......
I have 2 DS's aged 9 & 6 and currently having a real nightmare with the both of them.
Their general attitude towards us & each other is appalling, name calling, hitting each other, swearing, general refusal to do as asked and arguing back.
We have a busy schedule and I do believe potentially this has an impact, both myself and DH work full time and long days so rely on wrap around care for both DS's before & after school. In addition their both also busy with sports and after school activities.
They do have screens and will reach for them when they decide which is really irritating and we have now started removing the screens and locking them away as they 100% zone out on the damn things.
It's got to a point where other parents at School have noticed the decline in the boys behaviour (mainly whilst on the park after school with childminder) and needless to say I'm totally embarrassed and something has to give.
They are 2 amazing boys and the best boys to be around I love that they have personality and not afraid to speak up etc but the last few months it's been getting gradually worse and I honestly do not know what to do now.
I feel like all I do is rant and rave and shout at them both at the minute and I feel awful but no matter how many times I try to calmly talk to them it just ends up in a meltdown and argument. I'm shattered and mentally drained with them both they haven't learnt this behaviour from my home and have been brought up to respect their elders and peers etc.
Are they just being brothers?
Is this a "normal" phase and transition?
Or should I be worried and look to get School involved and my GP?