Hi,
Just looking for advice. Split up with ex about 11 months ago. Together-ish for 5 years over which time it was very up and down due to lies etc. That's a story for another post.
My problem at the moment is my sons behaviour. I agreed with ex that we would meet new partners so we would know who was in our sons life. He of course thought about himself and told me the day before that she would be at a party at his friends house, as thought our son was stupid and wouldn't know who she really was (yes, I know legally we can both have our son around whoever we want but I wanted to do it differently having grown up with this type of situation) Anyways, our son stays with him every other weekend and when he is there she will also, join them on days out or whatever. Since this has started my son has become super emotional, he will also say hurtful things, if I ask him about his weekdnds sometimes he will say he doesnt want to talk about it. I think he is hurting because in his heart he wants mummy and daddy and often gets upset that daddy won't sleep at our house. I think they split up for a few months as I found when he would come home his behaviour was different, seemed more happy and now over the last 2 weekends he has mentioned seeing her and his behaviour has just been as described above.
I just don't know how to help him or what to do. Recently it's been every bedtime that he gets super emotional crying and saying mean things sometimes. I've mentioned to ex why he couldn't have waited until our son was older to introduce and so understood things more and was more emotionally really for it.
Any advice on how to deal with this or even any good books that would help. He knows I'm always there for him and opens up with his feelings even if it's through showing rather than saying. I just want him to grow up and be mentally strong and not need to go to counselling in years to come.
Thanks