Ex partner threatening to take DD

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Asking for a friend as mumnet isn't taking new registrations! We are full.

My friend and ex have a ok relationship.
He asked for their daughter on Sunday, but she stated to him months ago due to her MG moving to Oz in June (on Tuesday) she asked if he could see his daughter on the Saturday and on the Monday. He said yes.
Now he's changed his mind and told her "he's coming to get their daughter on Sunday and he doesn't care who's there or if she's at her PG house"

She's a little bit frightened as he's on the birth certificate, their daughter is 2. He's becoming intimidating she said and threatened to "snap her down"
She did say he could see her on Sunday 10-1 but to bring her back at 1 because they have a meal at 1.30 with family, but he said no he's taking her out for the day.

I told her to call the police if he turns up but she doesn't want to, any advice?

Does the daughter have Mums surname on passport, if not she could have problem taking her out of the Country without the Father’s written permission. If she’s worried he isn’t going to bring the daughter back, then yes, she should be worried.

Well it sounds like they share parental rights so she can't stop him from seeing her, and the police won't be interested unless she's at risk of harm which doesn't sound like the case here. Are the days court ordered? Or just a casual agreement?

He has the same rights to see his daughter as your friend. The police wont get involved as this guy has not committed any offence.

Amicable arrangements and compromise are needed in the short term so that her daughter is the priority and maintains a relationship with her parents.

Long term, if an informal arrangement doesn't work, the parents need to have something agreed by a court. This would start at a 50/50 arrangement between both parents, if that is what they want.

@mindymoo double barrel I think, but I think she's worried he won't bring her back.

@Springadorable casual agreement, they get along fine but for some reason he's changed his mind on what they agreed on and has become nasty since Monday. She said they've had text arguements all week and this morning he started to threaten her. I don't know if he's done this before.
She's a little frightened and feels pressured to give him their daughter and cancel her plans

Can she just go out in the morning and not tell him where lunch is? Might be simplest for now